chasz Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 Hi, My ex is currently rebounding with a total player who is exactly my opposite. I was not strong for a period of time due to personal circumstances, which by the way have been resolved now, and therefore I was needy and too nice. She knows that I'm totally in the game again and that the things she missed and the drama wasnt my fault. The guy she has now is succesfull and a total well you know the womanizer type not needy at all. So you can bet your behind this doesnt last cause he's way out of her league. Here's the thing: Im staying in NC for the last 2 weeks and Im staying that for more than a month.We broke up and have been in LC for 2,5 months, but I'm wondering even if i dont talk to her on myspace/facebook, should I also delete her there to avoid being available? And she seeing what I'm up to? Or if I delete her does this create bad blood? And also there is one other thing, and yes I'm primarily doing NC for me, but it never hurts to play the outside right. I have the option of adding another red blooded ex of mine to my myspace/facebook. This might make her jealous cause she didn't like this girl cause she is way sexier than my current her(the current ex), but it might also backfire and she will think I've totally moved on without keeping the door open. However since she is also having a good time my somewhat hurt feelings tell me to add the other ex as sort of revenge or something. Again, some people say that it's better to totally close her off in a polite way and actually accentuate the fact that your totally closing the door in her face, whilst others choose the keep the door open option. What I am hoping for a little bit here and that is why it doesnt hurt to think a little strategically externally is that her relationship fails, she sees me back on track and not needy because of NC and changed attitude and we might actually try things again. Not sure if I still want to but I do feel something more for her and there were times and I never had this before that I thought she was the one/a keeper etc. Any thougths? Thanx guys. Greetings Chasz
CaliGuy Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 What would it benefit you to have her as friend on MS or FB? I can't think of any. Do you think it will be fun to watch their relationship progress? My advice has always been STRICT NC! That means no social websites, no calls, no emails, no IMs or Text. NOTHING. Disappear off her "side" of the earth. The sooner you move on with your life and put her behind you, the sooner you'll find someone better for you.
quankanne Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 no contact means NO CONTACT. Whatsoever. Which means, no facebook, no emails, no IM, no phone calls, no letters, no driving by her house in the middle of the night just because you want to make sure she's safe ... NADA.
Joker77 Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 Cut it off. The night my ex broke up with me, I deleted her immediately from myspace.
LadyV Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 I agree, cut it off..cut it all off. I asked my EXB to block me on FB, He can't see my site, and I can't see him. Although we have mutual friends, I do not see what he is posting, and he can't see what I am posting. I made the mistake of checking on his site through a friends, and boy, was that an eye opener. It was obvious that he was being very flirtatous with another and I freaked out. (The whole getting kicked in the stomach thing happend.) Even though we were broken up, we still were trying to be friends, Yeah, that is another dumb move. Just today, I told him no more, delete my number, I blocked his email address, and even went as far as had his phone number blocked so he can't text me. The cycle needs to stop, and I need to move on, and plan on it. It helps to just forget about it, you have to do what you have to do for YOU! It is for the best in the long run....
copaisking Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 TRUST ME.. boot her off both! If the temptation is there to look... you eventually will
brokenglass Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 chasz I think I'm one of the few members around here who has not taken the advice of others and removed my ex. Why? I am not entirely sure, its important her and I remain "friends" in whatever sense, for the sake of our child. I think me deleting her off would come across and petty and childish. I've come to the point where I have no desire to look at her profile. I've blocked her wall posts, new friends, all that. We are still friends on there but in terms of her activity, I don't see any of it, sans becoming "fans" of things and what not, which I don't let bother me anymore. I think your situation and mine are completely different though. If I were in your shoes, I would have removed her immediately and not look back. But thats just my opinion, I think the type of mind frame I am in regarding this is rare but thats just how I feel about it. I've accepted we have separate lives and frankly, I do care about her, but not enough to know what shes up to. Whether or not she looks at my profile is a mystery to me (not like theres any action going on there, just a lot of stupid stuff I post all day long).
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