msking03 Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 My husband and I have been married for 5 1/2 years now. We have a beautiful little girl who is now 9 months old. We've been having problems for a couple years now. He says I don't know how to communicate and that I am immature. On top of that he feels I do not truly love him and that if I do care about him, my level of care is not enough for him to be happy. He has taken this to the point of sabotaging communication and making sarcastic comments and digs toward me. I have done a LOT to try and fix things. Read self-help books, seeing a therapist, going to a group, and changing my communication habits completely. He keeps telling me it is not enough and he makes more digs at me. All it does it upset me and hurt me and it definitely doesn't make me want to work harder on the relationship. On top of that, any time I try to talk to him he interrupts me, and makes more digs or is sarcastic. I can't get a word out for anything, even if I am apologizing for something! And then he turns around and tells me it started with me it ends with me, meaning I have to do everything to fix the issues in our relationship and he measures whether or not it is good enough. I'm so hurt and frustrated, but according to him I am not allowed to be. All this came out of the blue one day a couple years ago- nothing leading up to it between us, just external stress factors. I think he is relating those to me, or that I don't know how to make him feel better in those situations and therefore I must not love him because I do not try hard enough. I don't know what to do. He will not chance, and with him continuing to push me away I see no way I can fix this on my own. I don't really want this to be over but I can see that at this rate we will never be happy together again. On top of all this, I work and he really doesn't (except once a week) and so he will probably want to take our daughter since I am working all the time, and neither one of us can move out because of finances, but I really cannot be in the same house as him if this is the direction we are taking. I actually packed my bags but have no where to go. I'm so lost...
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