notalone Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 I was in a relationship for one and a half years. Before we started dating we were very close friends for years and had helped each other through very tough times. His family always had a problem with our romantic relationship because we belong to different religions. In the end he decided that he could not stand the parental pressure anymore and dumped me. It was a very emotional break up...he said that he loved me but it was impossible to work it out etc. The next day, I panicked and met him to reason it out...to give it another shot. He reacted violently, called me names, screamed that he wanted me out of his life and that he hated me and left me alone sobbing in my room. It has been two months since then and we have not been in touch. He has been posting intimate pics of himself with another girl on facebook. The first cosy picture was posted a mere week after the break-up. I know this girl...had met her before through his friends circle. I had bought her drinks for gods sake. It hurts me like hell. All this while I thought that he left me because of family pressure. I really loved him...still do. And I thought he loved me too. He was my closest friend for so long after all...how could have I not trusted a friend? Now I am wondering if I was so insignificant to him that he can get over me and move on and publicly romance his new girlfriend in as little time as a week. What is going on? Can someone please tell me how to cope with this? How can it be so easy for him and so tough for me?
TheBigCow Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 Well my situation is quite different but my ex also started posting photos of her and her new boyfriend on facebook quite quickly. After a 5.5 year relationship she was practically living with her new boyfriend after a very short period. How can they move on so quickly? I don't know... common sense tells me that they had moved on before the breakup so really it could have taken them 6 months you just didn't know it was happening. But it doesn't quite do it for me (and I'm sure not for you either) because I was with her before we broke up and definitely felt the love. Actually in my case 2 days before this new guy came and spent a week at her place I went over to tell her how much I loved her (I know not the best idea) but I really felt love from her and we hugged and I asked her to tell me she didn't love me anymore for closure but she said she couldn't... but then 2 days later she's sleeping with someone else? confusing to say the least.
Author notalone Posted May 3, 2009 Author Posted May 3, 2009 Well...at least one thing is confirmed. Being completely insensitive is not gender specific. My ex wrote 'I love you' on a currency note (LDR...I collect notes) and gave me. Next day he says 'Get the f****** hell out of my life b****. I hate you and I never want to see you again.' One week later he is flaunting his new girl. Yes common sense tells me he was seeing her already before he dumped me. But then why all the lies...excuses...cover-ups...currency notes??? This is the guy who used to be one of my closest friends, who had seen me through a previous gut-wrenching break-up. Yes BigCow, confusing indeed.
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