Tryingsohard77 Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 I wasn't sure where to post this, I've been in a LDR for over a year. Things were going good until about a week ago, he just stopped calling. I called, texted and emailed him. He did return one of my emails saying his phone was stolen and he was getting a new one last week. Well, I still haven't heard from him. The last thing he said was he was going to call me on Friday. Still nothing, I checked his myspace page and he's been online today. He says on his page that he got drunk last night, which is out of character because he rarely drinks. I think he may have found someone else and too much of a coward to tell me. So I'm trying to cut my losses and move on but it's hard because I keep hoping that it's not over and just remembering everything he said about us finally being together everyday. I've deleted his number from phone, emails, texts everything but it still hurts like a $itch. It kind of brings back old feelings from past relationships when I went thru my divorce 3 years ago, my ex with no warning filed for a divorce didn't give me a reason nothing just left. Down the road I found out there was another woman involved. Makes me wonder if something is wrong with me when they do cowardly things like not giving me a reason. I think I'm a good woman, I'm an honest, trustworthy loving caring person, I have a great career my life is together but I don't understand this. It would be easier if I had the reason why instead of making me wonder if I did or said something. How rotten?!
sandy12345678993 Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 This is kinda like what I went through. We were doing the long distance thing for 7 months and things were good. We got to see each other. We talked all the time. He had gotten distant the last few months, not calling as much etc.... He asked me for a break specifically not a breakup, but he promised me that he was going to come back and be with me forever. He told me he would call tomorrow and we would talk about it. Well, he didn't call the next day and I never heard a thing from him again. I called him phone and it's no longer a working number. Guys are cowards, in my opinion. Not all of them, I hope, just the ones I seem to date. Maybe that says something about me. Yeah, it probably does. Anyway, it's been over 2 months and I finally feel like I'm starting to accept it, and that feels really good. It still hurts, but it's getting better slowly. NC is a good thing in the long run, even if it doesn't feel like it in the beginning.
adamt Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 i was in a LDR relationship for 3 years. we managed to see each other most weekends and kept incontact through the week on msn and telephone. She became distant with me as her life outside our relationship had a lot going on. She got more settled in her job and where she had moved town(origonally to be closer to me). i noticed stuff like on msn less and always seemed to be me being the first to say hello on msn. We seemed to handle the distance easy, trusted each other and never became too intense that we sufficated each other. (i had a LDR previosuly and the girlfriend was always texting me and paranoid on what i was doing. couldnt handle that) this year was the year we were going to live together and commit long term. But with her becoming distant in last few months its hard to get the relationship back on track when in a LDR. Things creep up on you and you get to find out less and less about what she is doing. Then her weekends started to fill up with other arrangements and I saw less and less of her. by now she was thinking outside the relationship. i guess it was only a matter of time. she used to log into msn automatically but i noticed she would was loggin in manual later and spending more time on facebook chat. She changed quite a lot in the last 6 months from the girl i asked out. LDR can mean it is hard to be there when the girlfriend is changing. We both admitted we should have communicated better but at the time we were both comfortable in the relationship. I guess going form a LDR to moving in together is a big step and can make some people have 2nd thoughts
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