D-Lish Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 What reason does the Ow have to expect honesty from the MM? She already knows he's a liar, or there would'nt be an affair going on.. If this Op's lover was a straight arrow, and if the Ow meant anything to him, he would already been divorced . Well, if he had an honest bone in his body he would never have cheated on his family in the first place.
boldjack Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 D, My point exactly. But they(ow/om) consistently believe that the WS will be honest with THEM, and are shocked to find out different.
Author Sugarcane Posted May 4, 2009 Author Posted May 4, 2009 It's a lesson I have learned, haven't I?!
sugarmomma Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 It's a lesson I have learned, haven't I?! Sorry to tell ya honey but you won't learn the lesson until you go complete NC. Cold Turkey. Your posts have been saying things like "i really want to end this" blah blah blah. When you are done with being treated like a damn fool (whichis what he is doing) you will say "I will not allow anyone to ever treat me like this again". Personally I don't think you are done and we cannot deny you whatever pain you have coming is this situation. As we all know pain is the GREAT motivator. Just depends on what your tolerance level is for pain and BullSh*t. My question is how many more years do you have to waste on him? You know you can't get those back, right? Go NC Now!!!
White Flower Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 D, My point exactly. But they(ow/om) consistently believe that the WS will be honest with THEM, and are shocked to find out different. Well, when you know of a few men who actually left for the OW, the one right and true love then you tend to give more chances. My father did just this and so when I met MM and believed I was his first OW I had every bit of faith that what he was telling me was true. Each case is different and sometimes there is that happy ending. But not too often.
OWoman Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Well, when you know of a few men who actually left for the OW, the one right and true love then you tend to give more chances. My father did just this and so when I met MM and believed I was his first OW I had every bit of faith that what he was telling me was true. Each case is different and sometimes there is that happy ending. But not too often. Mine too, and my H, and a number of my friends IRL. But that doesn't sound like the case here - and even if it was, this guy sounds like he has issues that he'd be advised to sort out before going near to SC, if he does actually D his W.
Author Sugarcane Posted May 11, 2009 Author Posted May 11, 2009 Hi all, I kept myself busy with work so I haven't really had the time to check on my blog. I have spoken to him recently, right after I registered here and he said he might not be able to give me what he needs soooo I told him that is it then. No more us. I can't take it anymore... the waiting and not knowing what's next. It's as if he's not really making any move. He keeps telling me that when kids are involved it's really hard to just pack up and leave....
sugarmomma Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Hi all, I kept myself busy with work so I haven't really had the time to check on my blog. I have spoken to him recently, right after I registered here and he said he might not be able to give me what he needs soooo I told him that is it then. No more us..... So you ended it? If so, good for you but be ready for the aftermath. They always return to the scene of the crime:rolleyes:
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