GooGooDoll Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 To give a little background, I met this girl on a flight a few weeks ago and it happened that she was going to be moving to NYC where I live. So we exchanged info and we have been MSNing for the past few weeks. On thursday when she arrived she MSNed me saying she was here and we made plans to meet up as it was her first night in town. Had dinner, and went to a coffee shop/bar to sit and chat for a little bit before she had to turn in for bed. During the evening she mentioned that her laptop was having issues and she needed it fixed for some meetings/interviews the next day. I offered to help her with it in the morning if she needed and she said she'd msg me. Next morning comes and I dont hear from her. In the afternoon I get a text from her new cell phone that she got that day and apologizing for oversleeping in the morning. We texted back and forth and she told me her interviews were going well and had some left to go to. I mentioned that I was going to have dinner with some friends and said she could join us at which point she said she had to get dinner with her new roommate but that we should catch up this weekend. Anyhow, later the next day I texted her "how did the rest of your interviews go?" and got no response. Today (the second day after) I tried calling as I was going out with some friends and got no response so I left a text (her voicemail isnt activated yet) "Hope everything is going well with the move, wanted to see if you wanted to hang out." She never responded. At this point Im figuring it might just not be worth the trouble as she has shown in the past to be a little flaky. But Im wondering if I may have gone about things wrong by offering to help her with things as well as texting her the past two days. I wasn't sure if I should be the one to try and contact her when she said "lets catch up this weekend" but most girls prefer the guy to call etc. Anyway, Im not even looking to this as someone to date, as I am ambivalent that she's the right person for a long term relationships based on her long term goals etc, but I found her intersting and fun to hang out with and wasnt sure what I should or should not do. Especially considering we finally are able to spend time in person after a few weeks (whether as friends or more), seems like a pretty big screw up on my part if that goes to waste so quickly. Thoughts?
tinklebell Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 Leave her be for now. You've done quite enough for someone you just knew. If she doesn't contact you in the next few days, you can then decide whether or not you want to take one last shot.
colosseum Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 Leave her be for now. You've done quite enough for someone you just knew. If she doesn't contact you in the next few days, you can then decide whether or not you want to take one last shot. Yeah, sounds to me like a lot happened really quickly. I bet she's still trying to adjust to her new area and life, and I think you need to give her a little space. I think the ball is well in her court now, so if you keep pining away that might deter her even more. I'd say wait for her to reply/call back. If she doesn't in the next few days, I'd say let it be unless you really want to give her another shot. I don't think this should be that difficult seeing that even you're ambivalent about it. Give it time--let it simmer. Or just move on.
era Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 Hi GooGooDoll... She only just moved to NYC 2 days ago!... You are not being sensitive to the fact that she probably has dozens of things to take care of...instead you post a thread complaining about her behaviour. She's busy, that's all. Try contacting her at a later date when she will likely be more settled.
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