Trialbyfire Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 I think this sums it up. It's not so much that girls don't want to ask but it's a biological/genetic makeup. If there's enough interest, very little will stand in the way of a guy asking a girl out.Exactly!! You can make your interest known without directly asking a guy out. With my fiance, I had my friends invite him to our NYs party, after he helped me out. He immediately got my number from them, and called me up to arrange it. We ended up going to both his and my NYs parties and the rest is history! Let men hunt. They appreciate the kill more, if they do.
colosseum Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 Guys - you say you'd like a girl to ask you out, and I get that. Of course it's nice to know that someone's interested, and I understand that it "takes the pressure off" and eliminates the fear of rejection. BUT - isn't it also true that if you were really interested in this girl, you'd ask her out? ... But if you REALLY liked a girl, thought she looked cute/nice/interesting, you'd ask her out, right? No; sometimes fear of rejection and thus the prospect of losing that chance with that person we really like may seem overwhelming. (in situations that are nothing more than acquaintances, say) The qualification that needs to be had here is of course what Jaytb said: we need some reciprocation. I hate people who are tricky about it and really subtle about it.
Author tinklebell Posted May 4, 2009 Author Posted May 4, 2009 Exactly!! You can make your interest known without directly asking a guy out. Let men hunt. They appreciate the kill more, if they do. So after the interest is put across (or at least presumably understood by the other party) and the other party doesn't come for the kill, it's loud and clear that they aren't intersted, right?
Trialbyfire Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 So after the interest is put across (or at least presumably understood by the other party) and the other party doesn't come for the kill, it's loud and clear that they aren't intersted, right?That would be my take on it, although there are guys who are incredibly shy or some who lack the social skills to understand the bat signal. In either scenario of shy guy or someone clueless, how in the world is he going to meet your needs, if it goes any further?
shinedown Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 The qualification that needs to be had here is of course what Jaytb said: we need some reciprocation. I hate people who are tricky about it and really subtle about it. That's what I think too. I understand as a guy that we have to make the first move most of the time and initiate everything. But some reciprocation goes a long way otherwise the 'chase' gets a little tedious imo.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 It doesn't bother me if I have to initiate it in the beginning, however from my personal experiences I enjoy it more when we bot mutually initiate things. It would be alot less fun for me if I had to initiate everything. For example it was just as friends but I ask a girl out for a small date today, we had alot of fun chit chating and drawing together. Later on she then asks if we can meet up in a few weeks when shes back in town and I found that wonderful! Makes it feel more meaningful to me =) Same kind of thing in the past as well, my friend and I would perodically go out with each other for some fun every week. Everyweek we would rotate who pays for each other. Great stuff -Dylan I really like this idea. Sometimes i think it's okay to have the guy initiate and the girl can return the same favor afterwards. It just makes everything more balanced and equal.
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