mongoose45 Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 My [COLOR=blue]wife[/COLOR] recounted to me the night her ex told her he was leaving her and she burst into tears. Does this mean she still has feelings for him and wishes he never left??? 2 or 3 years ago i mentioned how it seems her ex could not care less about her and it shocked me that her eyes got teary. We have been married for 13 years and she was married to him for 5 years before he left her. She had 1 child with him.
Faded Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 Being reminded you were left in the dust is a hard feeling to let go of. I'd probably be in the same boat if I was her. She had a kid with him, She was married to him, He's always going to be a part of her - like it or not. But she's with you now, Not him. You shouldn't bring him up. You should only talk to her about it if she mentions the subject.
now_what Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 I don't think she has feelings for him still, but still remembers how it felt to be dumped by him. My husband left me after 30 years of marriage and I feel like I am doing ok, but every once in a while the thoughts creep back into my head and I replay how he left me: he sent me an email when I was at work stating that he had moved out of the house. When I got home all his things were gone from the bedroom and he had left a pillow that I had given him for a Valentine's day gift - it was shaped like a conversation heart and said "I LOVE YOU" - on the floor in the place that his nightstand and personal stuff had been, just like a slap in the face. The rejection is just so intense at times. It has only been seven months now, but I would not be surprised if this scene does not replay in my head for the rest of my life. Don't worry if she feels this way from time to time - she is with you and is open enough to share her emotions with you because she knows you love her. Some hurts just cut to the core and are hard to let go of.
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