Confused2710 Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 my girlfriend of 6 years has said that we need a break because she doesn't know what she wants right now - this came about because of an argument that we had on a saturday night while staying in a hotel. She has a number of problems in her life at present with her grandma being ill and she does not like her new job that she has worked so hard for - University and college - its the job that she has always wanted and she now has it and does not like it we lived together while she was at uni for nearly 3 years and have both had to move back in with our parents so I can save for a home so we no longer see each other as much as we did But recently she has been spending all of her time out drinking with friends but let me assure you my g/f is the faithfull type and wouldn't cheat because she has not got it in her during this time at home its putting a strain on our relationship because i feel that we dont see each other like we used to and she thinks that we see to much of each other I have tried to see her but she wont answer the door to me I know I need to give her time while she figures out what she needs but she doesn't know how I feel properly as I am not good at expressing my feelings since my mum died at 17 But because I cant speak to her about how I feel she will be listening to her friend who really hates me and I cant do anything and feel helpless How do I take things forward?
whichwayisup Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 All you can do is give her time and space. I know you're hurting and this sucks, but try your best to give her that time. Hopefully if she gets that time to herself, she'll realize how much she misses you and wants you.. If her friend influences her, that means she isn't the one for you. If she loves you, noone will get in the way of your relationship! Keep posting..Talk about how you feel..This place is good for you, atleast to get you to open up and share your feelings - And it will help you communicate better with her in the future. (If you stick around long enough, you'll get pointers from alot of folks around here.)
Admiral Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 When your girlfriend wants a "break" or "space", the relationship is OVER. She is no longer attracted to you. When she goes out an gets drunk with friends, she is hooking up and probably sleeping with other men. Your relationship is over, she knows it (because she ended it), and she has moved on. How do you take things forward? By forgetting about her, and dating other women.
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