CES1001 Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 Ok so, i have been in a relationship for almost 8 months. i love him soo much. he is a huge part of my life. but i have been messing up a lot lately. he feels that i do not respect him like he respects me. he thinks that i am emotionally unstable. everytime we fight i cry hysterically. i am so afraid to lose him. i am so attached to him. for example: this morning after his baseball game he asked me if i wanted to come over. i was supposed to clean my room today, so i wanted to get it done that way i wouldnt have to do it later when i could be with him. he got mad at me cuz i didnt go over there. i just feel like an idiot. i keep messing up without even knowing it. he thinks i dont care about him, but he is all i care about. i love him. please hep me keep my babyy.
tkgirl Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 Ok so, i have been in a relationship for almost 8 months. i love him soo much. he is a huge part of my life. but i have been messing up a lot lately. he feels that i do not respect him like he respects me. he thinks that i am emotionally unstable. everytime we fight i cry hysterically. i am so afraid to lose him. i am so attached to him. for example: this morning after his baseball game he asked me if i wanted to come over. i was supposed to clean my room today, so i wanted to get it done that way i wouldnt have to do it later when i could be with him. he got mad at me cuz i didnt go over there. i just feel like an idiot. i keep messing up without even knowing it. he thinks i dont care about him, but he is all i care about. i love him. please hep me keep my babyy. yikes! if you don't mind me asking, how old are the two of you? This guys sounds a bit controlling.. and you are letting him. You simply can NOT let a guy have so much control over your emotions like that... it is just not healthy. I think the best thing you can do is step back a little bit and get some perspective on your relationship. You tell him you love him, he needs to believe that... if he doesn't then he has his own issues to deal with. I don't really know what else to tell you... except I hope you can get a little stronger... and be happy!
Kamille Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 I feel it's disrespectful of him to 1) not respect your priorities (cleaning your room) 2) make you feel like you're in the wrong (not loving him enough) and then 3) make you feel like you're the one messing up. And can we add: 4) make you cry. I agree with tkgirl, he should know you love him. You shouldn't have to continuously have to prove it to him. He needs to work on his insecurity and accept that you express love differently then he does. Also, he souldn't expect you to change all your plans for him.
Admiral Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 for example: this morning after his baseball game he asked me if i wanted to come over. i was supposed to clean my room today, so i wanted to get it done that way i wouldnt have to do it later when i could be with him. he got mad at me cuz i didnt go over there. i just feel like an idiot. i keep messing up without even knowing it. he thinks i dont care about him, but he is all i care about. i love him.. You had to clean your room. I'm assuming you're around ~15 years old. At that age, he should understand that your parents have some control over you.
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