ladyluck013 Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 Ok so my partner and myself are having a break. All signs point to "break up" but he says "break". I have moved out to work on my issues and during this break my partner believes that it means no calling, no text messaging, no contact. I should not call him. He shouldn't be expected to call me. I should not wait for his call. It has been addressed that he felt like he was being attacked by me and of which I do admit. I have the tendancy to attack, defend and deny. He wanted a break from me attacking the person who he is rather than accepting the person that he is. This is probably why he does not want me to call. He has not stated the length of this break because he just doesn't know what's going to happen. He says I will be a great person once my issues are on the way to recovery and to still not expect the desired outcome of getting back together because I may still not be the person that he wants in his life. *heart-wrench* We have agreed that there will still be faithfulness to one another during this break and honesty is something we both agreed on also. Am I wrong in my idea of a break? I thought that meant that he would still call me, wish me a good night etc. We have also seen one another on a few occasions and he has talked to me as he would talk to one of his mates. No kissing, no hugging.. just the cold shoulder. I don't know what to do!!! He says that it's my choice to move on or work on my issues and leave him alone for a while. Wait for him to call me. He is a good person and I thank him for helping me realise how much of a dysfunctional and depressed person I was becoming. He does mean well and I just don't know....
lonelypiscesguy Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 Just hang in there. It is hard to really say what drove him away, because we all have a tendency to sugar coat why a break-up happened, and you didn't say how long ago you broke up. Give him his space for now. Good luck, and wish me luck as well.
TaraMaiden Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 No. he is absolutely right. Look, he states you have serious issues. You admit the same. have you sought counselling and assistance with resolving them? because until you do - until you send him a message saying "I admit my dreadful issues, and am now in counselling to try to resolve and work through them" this break WILL definitely become a break-up. This is your opportunity to focus on how important he is to you, not how important you should be to him. If you want him back, you are going to have to be like the ant, and work hard to put things in good order. Find some form of counselling, and seek your deep issues. And face them, and sort them. Not for his sake, but for yours, i think. _/l\_
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