clementine Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 Hi everyone! all abit new to this, but hoping someone can give me a little needed advice ok so I have been dating this guy for a few months now, he is quite a bit older than me, has a young child with his ex and is generally a pretty busy guy. anyways, first couple of dates were awesome, lots of making out and going back to his after a nice meal etc, the sex was fun. ok skip forward a month or so later and nothing, like nothing! a few kisses and thats about it :s i totally understand that he wants to take it slow, so do i, i realise he has a lot on his plate right now and we are only meeting up a couple of times a week, but i just dont get it? like does he just want to be friends now? we both have busy schedules, but come on, does dating not mean going out having fun and having at least some sex?!? hehehe or am i just being a total guy? the last guy i was with, wanted sex all the time, and to be honest i didnt really like that, but this one is like the other extreme, its weird cos he calls me and txts me all the time, but we never hook up anymore? im sure im over reacting, but im starting to get a little bored? do you think i should hold on in there a little longer, as (besides to no sex part) i really like him, but i realise he comes with a whole lot of other commitments many thanks x
hotgelato Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 its kinda strange that u already had sex and now he's not into it. i understand if he was slow to begin with... but maybe he's too tired? i suggest u talk to him about it. guys are really simple....so no need to analyze by yourself really! good luck
Juristhea Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 Hi everyone! all abit new to this, but hoping someone can give me a little needed advice ok so I have been dating this guy for a few months now, he is quite a bit older than me, has a young child with his ex and is generally a pretty busy guy. anyways, first couple of dates were awesome, lots of making out and going back to his after a nice meal etc, the sex was fun. ok skip forward a month or so later and nothing, like nothing! a few kisses and thats about it :s i totally understand that he wants to take it slow, so do i, i realise he has a lot on his plate right now and we are only meeting up a couple of times a week, but i just dont get it? like does he just want to be friends now? we both have busy schedules, but come on, does dating not mean going out having fun and having at least some sex?!? hehehe or am i just being a total guy? the last guy i was with, wanted sex all the time, and to be honest i didnt really like that, but this one is like the other extreme, its weird cos he calls me and txts me all the time, but we never hook up anymore? im sure im over reacting, but im starting to get a little bored? do you think i should hold on in there a little longer, as (besides to no sex part) i really like him, but i realise he comes with a whole lot of other commitments many thanks x The guy is trying to fix his priorities and commitments because you are already in his life. It may be weird but for guys to do this is clearly a sign that they really want something more with you but they have to do a couple of things first before they can be with you. I was also in the exact same situation as you are before my fiance and I had a relationship, without the sex of course. ^_^
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