hibiscus21 Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 There is this guy that i work with that i really like. I was certain he liked me as well, he was very obvious about it. Even one of my coworkers said he was attracted to me (the guy i like told him that) and he really thought this guy was interested in me. So I told him that i was attracted to him and suggested that we go out sometime. He asked my why i didn't tell him sooner that i liked him. He then said "you think we should go out, huh?" Then he said he would have to think about it and let me know. So i took this as a no. Is that what this means, is he letting me down easy? Also, was i too forward? Thanks
eclipseIDE Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 There is this guy that i work with that i really like. I was certain he liked me as well, he was very obvious about it. Even one of my coworkers said he was attracted to me (the guy i like told him that) and he really thought this guy was interested in me. So I told him that i was attracted to him and suggested that we go out sometime. He asked my why i didn't tell him sooner that i liked him. He then said "you think we should go out, huh?" Then he said he would have to think about it and let me know. So i took this as a no. Is that what this means, is he letting me down easy? Also, was i too forward? Thanks Hell have to think about it? No offense but already the guy sounds like a tool. Some people might tell you that you are but me personally like women who go after what they want instead of sitting back waiting, It shows you arent some subservient docile woman.
carhill Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 Yep, I think he's got all the slots filled in his toolbelt...... with himself. Next
xpaperxcutx Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 Um what? He said he'll think about it? I don't think so. Tell me to jump off the bridge while he's at it.
Author hibiscus21 Posted May 2, 2009 Author Posted May 2, 2009 why would he tell other people he was interested in me, and really act like he was interested in me, and then tell me he would think about it? lol I'm just really confused
xpaperxcutx Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 why would he tell other people he was interested in me, and really act like he was interested in me, and then tell me he would think about it? lol I'm just really confused Maybe he was just talking smack. Remember back in high school, certain guys would just say **** about the girl who lost her virginity? Same thing here. Just ignore him. And if he asks you out, don't say yes. Say you'll think about it.
carhill Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 Male mind f*ck, OP. Women do it too. I've been played by some of the best. Trust me, move on
Cherished Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 The answer to your question is one of 3 possibilities: He was flirting with you at work for an ego boost but didn't like you enough to actually want to date you, but it was fun to flirt and build his ego by having a coworker crushing on him. or He was interested but the mystery and "chase" factor that men need is now gone for him and he's no longer interested because you blew it by asking him out. or He is keeping you there as a possibility for booty call material but not dating/relationship material which is why he said "he'd have to think about it." He didn't want to lead you on by being excited and letting you think he really liked you a lot and wanted a relationship/dating experience. With either of these options, you don't end up with him as a boyfriend/relationship partner so....sorry if you want more than a booty call with this guy, it's not happening.
tkgirl Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 What a tool. I know, that's exactly what I thought... guys can be so clueless sometimes! anyways... yea, I'd back waaaaaay off if I were you. He knows you're interested and now he'll "let you know" if he wants to go out with you? whatev!! like SB said.. what a tool!!!
tkgirl Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 why would he tell other people he was interested in me, and really act like he was interested in me, and then tell me he would think about it? lol I'm just really confused I think he is even more confused than you are.... don't let him play you like that. Like I said in my other post... back waaaaay off (if not completely) let him chase you now.. if you are even still interested that is. I would be pretty turned off myself after that though...
Yamaha Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 He sounds very immature and not date material. Really not even friend material!
Author hibiscus21 Posted May 3, 2009 Author Posted May 3, 2009 lol yea...that pretty much turned me off. There are other guys out there.
BobSacamento Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 Well I think you have you answer if he does come back: "Rain check please"
mortensorchid Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 Guy's a tool. If he was any bit of a decent guy at all he would simply say something like "Thank you for your offer, but I'm not interested", or something along those lines. Don't bother with him. Plus don't get involved with someone you work with. It will lead to nothing but trouble in your workplace, and that's the last place you want to have trouble.
pandagirl Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 Sorry. I meant to post this as a separate post! But, I agree -- this guy is a tool. Who responds to being asked out like that??
Author hibiscus21 Posted May 3, 2009 Author Posted May 3, 2009 Sorry. I meant to post this as a separate post! But, I agree -- this guy is a tool. Who responds to being asked out like that?? That's exactly what i thought! It completely baffles me at how some guys think.
tinklebell Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 Guys should be honest about how they feel when asked. Only if they're genuinely interested, they should agree to a date. Otherwise, the ability to politely decline (with a bit of explanation if warranted) is needed. Wouldn't that make the world a better place?
refurb Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 I'll bet that the guy thinks he being a player by what he said. Based on the OP he probably is interested in her, but he has succumb to the idea that you need to be "alpha" if you want a girl to like you. RF
Jersey Shortie Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 Op, it's my experience that in theory, men like the idea of being asked out. In reality, they don't.
Author hibiscus21 Posted May 3, 2009 Author Posted May 3, 2009 Guys is that true, when it comes down to it, you would rather ask the girl out than be asked out by a girl?
Jersey Shortie Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 Most of them are going to tell you that they love the idea. Doesn't mean they really do.
Kamille Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 There is this guy that i work with that i really like. I was certain he liked me as well, he was very obvious about it. Even one of my coworkers said he was attracted to me (the guy i like told him that) and he really thought this guy was interested in me. So I told him that i was attracted to him and suggested that we go out sometime. He asked my why i didn't tell him sooner that i liked him. He then said "you think we should go out, huh?" Then he said he would have to think about it and let me know. So i took this as a no. Is that what this means, is he letting me down easy? Also, was i too forward? Thanks the guy is an idiot, granted. But is there a possibility that he's dating someone else and that's why he "has to think about it"? This might explain the why he asked why you didn't tell him sooner.
You'reasian Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 There is this guy that i work with that i really like. I was certain he liked me as well, he was very obvious about it. Even one of my coworkers said he was attracted to me (the guy i like told him that) and he really thought this guy was interested in me. So I told him that i was attracted to him and suggested that we go out sometime. He asked my why i didn't tell him sooner that i liked him. He then said "you think we should go out, huh?" Then he said he would have to think about it and let me know. So i took this as a no. Is that what this means, is he letting me down easy? Also, was i too forward? Thanks Was this a face to face meeting? or texting? It seems like you have a lot of "friend told a friend" assisting you.
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