scootncash Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 Soul Bear, After catching up on this post I thought I'd send you some free therapy. From one healed soul to a freshly lost soul. Id like to suggest to you a book that my therapist asked to get and read. Out of all the books she had given me to read, plus a few on my own, there is one that is extremely helpful. When you read it you will literally be asking were they here with you during your relationship. The book was based on marriage and marriage issues but my therapist said that it applied to couples as well. It deals with every issue, every question, it really contains a mountain full of information. Quite frankly I dont understand why more people arent told about it. Its called Love Must Be Tough by Dr. Cloud & Dr. Townsend. Be warned, its an eyeopener and a wake up call to yourself, about yourself, and how to handle the pain, hurt, loss, and how to heal. I keep it on my shelf and occassionally re-read it just to keep me on my toes, a sort of refresher course in therapy! Please get the book and anyone else on this post that is suffering through relationship issues. Take care my friend! Scootncash
Author Soul Bear Posted May 7, 2009 Author Posted May 7, 2009 that was a bad email i sent...mercury is in retrograde!
webmuse Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 I don't think that was a closure letter at all.. I think it was just a plea to come back into the relationship just worded different..
Author Soul Bear Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 I don't think that was a closure letter at all.. I think it was just a plea to come back into the relationship just worded different.. Whos letter...mine or hers? Hold on a sec. Im not meant to be on LS for the time being. I subscribed to this thread and got a notification in my inbox. Sorry folks. SoulBears gonna go away for a bit
webmuse Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Soul, I meant your letter, sorry, but I read the whole thing is saying "Please come back to me, I am miserable without you." That's maybe how she took it and sent you the email back. But that's just my opinion.
Author Soul Bear Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 Soul, I meant your letter, sorry, but I read the whole thing is saying "Please come back to me, I am miserable without you." That's maybe how she took it and sent you the email back. But that's just my opinion. Ah yes, my letter does sound like that. We are back on speaking terms again for now. I forgave her and apologised for my email, she said ''for what its worth i forgive you too'' See my post in the 2nd chance forums ''****you wont believe this***'' Alot has happened since I wrote this post Thankyou all SBx
Author Soul Bear Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 I am not even meant to be on LS right now...why cant I leave this place alone!!! Dont worry Carhill, I am taking heed of your advice this time! I hope to have a good reconciliation story for you all soon...Dont say No, its not possible... Anything is possible in this the best of all possible worlds
redy2 Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 well after some days of nc or just txting. we met up sunday for like an hr. she was holding on kissin me telling me she missed me etc etc.that we'd hook up mon. well i got blown off mon and tues. and yesterday when she text me aplogizing for tues. i told her i was done. then i get the i love i want to marry you im just scared. which leds us into an argument. which ended up to make a long story short with her in my bed last night. tellin me she loved me. so what are we now? i have no frickin clue.
Author Soul Bear Posted May 15, 2009 Author Posted May 15, 2009 well after some days of nc or just txting. we met up sunday for like an hr. she was holding on kissin me telling me she missed me etc etc.that we'd hook up mon. well i got blown off mon and tues. and yesterday when she text me aplogizing for tues. i told her i was done. then i get the i love i want to marry you im just scared. which leds us into an argument. which ended up to make a long story short with her in my bed last night. tellin me she loved me. so what are we now? i have no frickin clue. You tell me bro?! where are you now? what the latest?
CaliGuy Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Love Must Be Tough by Dr. Cloud & Dr. Townsend Correction: "Love Must Be Tough" is by Dr. Dobson. Cloud and Townsend wrote "Boundaries"
redy2 Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 well here is my latest. anyways i come home at lunch we eat make out she tells me loves crap like that. ok i get ready to go she is liek im not gonna leave my stuff im not sure ill be back tonight. but ill be back this weekend prob sat. im like ok. ill help u carry ur kids bed to car. she is like no leave it we will be back up here before i need agagin. (she works and doesnt have him on the weekend) she txt me that afternoon like 30 times nothing major random stuff. i tell her have a good bday and be safe. no further word. check her myspace and she had on it today had a pretty awesom night thank you xxxx another dudes name. so now im fitting pieces she has another dude which i figured when she has her kid wants hang with me when she doesnt wants to be with him. so today i txt her and just said hey hope you had a good birthday and that was it. didnt want to let on i knew or anything. got noreply. so now im going nc again which i planned to do anyway to see what happens i just didnt want her to think i went nc because of her myspace page. but i have her kid bed which she will need next week so she will have to contact me at some point. why she wants to play like this i have no clue.
Author Soul Bear Posted May 15, 2009 Author Posted May 15, 2009 Put her on the SPOT!!! ''Hope you had fun with ****'' (whatever his name is) come pick up your bed and be gone'' Thats sh i t and heartbreaking sorry bro Dont put up with that
redy2 Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 so now we got in a fuss because i didnt txt her today, and that she was planning on coming etc etc. i was like i didnt hear from u either i made plans. then i get the the 9th degree about what im gonna do and who with. im like gonna off on me so i call . lol she answers this time for sure. so i got bitched out. she is acting like my gf again. ugh im confused. anyways i plan on talking tommorow night if she does indeed come i sort dont want to do it over the phone. oh and i didnt tell yall but good chance she is preggers so throw that on top of everything else. yall gonna dsee me on the maury show lol!
Recommended Posts