rainbowbrite Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 ok i am so mad right now. me and my ex broke up the end of august of last year. i stayed nc for a very long time, till like march i called him. we ended up talking on the phone for like 2 hours, ever since then we talk everyday for hours on aim, or sumtimes on the phone. he took me on a "date" 2 weeks ago, he took me to the movies and payed for me. we had great chemistry, wen he dropped me off home we ended up making out for like 2 hours, nuthn r rated or anything. but we cuddled, he gave me a kiss on teh forehead and even looked strait into my eyes for like 5 minutes intensley, while this love song was playing about being so in love with someone. so today i call him and im like wen r we gona hang out again, and hes like i dont kno. and i was so upset so im finally like. listen, it seems to me u had feelings for me wen u saw me the other week, and hes like no. i thought i made it clear i just want to be friends. im like i thought we were moving towards bf/gf and hes like, i dont have feelings for u at all like that. am i just crazy!? seems to me, like he does, and hes lieing? actions seriously speak louder than words. our chemistry wen we are together is undenyable. the way he looks at me, and shiz is crazy, like his eyes dont lie. he even brushed my hair out of the way, gave me his jacket to wear wen i was cold, payed for me, even took us to our special beach we used to go to. so im just lost and confused. he told me hes scared of falling in love, hes scared of getting hurt and shiz. but i dont kno why? btw. i know hes not looking for a friends with benefits thing, because he knows i would never have sex with him or anything, i am still a virgin, and he knows wed have to go out to do that kind of thing. so its like he just really wants to be my friend?
SimplyIzzy2010 Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 Okay, so I went out with my ex bf for 2 years. then all this year, he's been stringing me along. he called when he had nothing else to do and asked me to hang out. A month ago he asked me if I would go pick out glasses with him. I said yes. That day we had so much fun. he held my hand on the way there. we goofed around. the nurses told us we were so adorable. we left. we kissed we talked about or amazing chemistry, and the future together. I knew he'd been talking to this girl, so I looked him in the eyes and asked him "do you like her?" He said no. I thought we were on our way to happiness again. But then he went back to his old self. and now, he's with that girl I asked him about. and I asked him never to speak to me again. He's using you, just like this guy used me. If you want more details about my story, you can read my former posts. but it sounds to me like you're in my situation. you want him to love you so bad, you're willing to do anything right? but he doesn't love you. he was just bored. I know it by experience. I hope I don't sound too harsh =/ I don't mean to. if you need any more help, hit me up
lonelypiscesguy Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 What a Richard! A**holes like this give real, good-hearted men like me a bad name. Kick his a$$ to the curb!
TaraMaiden Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 he told me hes scared of falling in love, hes scared of getting hurt In the whole of your verbose post, here is the answer, right here, above. he wants all the benefits of being in a relationship with you, but does not wish to call it a relationship, or term it love. So he is seeking you with all the icing, but does not wish to commit. And I really believe that he is fighting his urges, because as with most intimate relationships - he would like sex with you. This is his dilemma.
Author rainbowbrite Posted May 3, 2009 Author Posted May 3, 2009 thanks all for the advice. i didnt think i was being crazy, but i realize now, that he likes just having me there, because i will always be there. ya kno.
SimplyIzzy2010 Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 yeah hon, and you have to show him that you're NOT his doormat!!!!
Author rainbowbrite Posted May 4, 2009 Author Posted May 4, 2009 yeah hon, and you have to show him that you're NOT his doormat!!!! haha so tru. i think im just gona stop talkn to him. i gave him 100000x chances that he didnt deserve. i used to have a great positive outlook on life, and my self esteem was great, and during our relationship he took that away from me, and now all i want is "me" back. i know that is what attracted him to me in the first place, i miss myself. :/ anyway, his aim away message is psycho. its like sum weird song lyrics that are like 'leave me alone, u have me goen crazy' and all this other junk. if he didnt have feelings for me, i doubt hed put up an away message about me anyway
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