Juristhea Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 I don't know if this is the right place to post and I'm pretty sure that this is a debatable topic. But the concept of soulmates: True or not? http://www.healthyboundaries.com/article6.html Please give me your inputs and opinions and/or violent reactions.
paddington bear Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 I have to say that the spelling and grammar is appalling in that article, I found it incredibly confusing to read and didn't understand the point that the author was trying to make - that people end up with a non-soulmate because they go for someone that they are attracted to and want, so they should go for someone they aren't attracted to and don't want otherwise the relationship is bound to failure???? Because when you want and desire someone that person is definitely not the person for you - was the the point he was making??? I'm not sure, it was confusing and not explained very well. I do believe in soulmates - not in a happy clappy one other person can fulfill all your needs and you never argue way, but that there is someone out there who you gel with, who gets you and who loves warts and all and allows you to love them fully, but I also believe there can be more than one soulmate out there, there are millions of people in the world, it's silly to believe that only one person out of all those millions will only ever be the one for you.
Bejita463 Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 The guy that wrote that article badly needs to hire an editor. I personally believe that "soul mate" is a nice sounding, but ultimately meaningless term. Relationships work because people make them work, and ascribing success to a form of fate (which is basically what a soul mate is - someone you are meant to be with) is selling your relationship short.
Author Juristhea Posted May 2, 2009 Author Posted May 2, 2009 The guy that wrote that article badly needs to hire an editor. I personally believe that "soul mate" is a nice sounding, but ultimately meaningless term. Relationships work because people make them work, and ascribing success to a form of fate (which is basically what a soul mate is - someone you are meant to be with) is selling your relationship short. Quite true, but taking a look at other relationships that have lasted for 20 years or so, but end up failing, would you say that they really are not meant for each other? That when they thought they were soulmates or perfect for each other was all just a big facade of the things to come?
Bejita463 Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 Quite true, but taking a look at other relationships that have lasted for 20 years or so, but end up failing, would you say that they really are not meant for each other? That when they thought they were soulmates or perfect for each other was all just a big facade of the things to come? Well, people change. I would not call a relationship a facade merely because it did not end in the most ideal of manners. Even ignoring how the relationship ultimately ends, I'd not say that the concept of "soul mate" could be used to adequately describe why a couple manages to last 20 years to begin with.
cnkale80 Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 Hi Juristhea. Very interesting article. I have had some coffee shop discussions of a similar nature that have been quite interesting. The article is rather cliche or a common response to an issue with no factual basis. I personally believe that different cultures have created this romantic fantasy that everyone has another "half" out there; this was a prevalent belief in ancient Greece (the stories and legends of the Greek God Zeus). What I think happens is, people mistake compatible personalities mixed with a burning desire to love and be loved for what they would call a soulmate. In my opinion, the modern definition of a soulmate is nonexistent. It is more of a fairytale that Hollywood has overdramatized. Divorce is extremely high right now and I guarantee you many of those relationships were claimed to have been a "soulmate match". Well if that was the case, why would they be getting divorced? They most likely got divorced because they spent more time planning the wedding than the marriage by ignoring the real world and overemphasizing a fairytale life. Most people who try to convince themselves that predestined soulmates exist have been hurt in a previous relationship and are scared to try again, or are very selfish and lazy and want someone to fit into their life like a puzzle piece to their fantasy land picture. Ultimately, denying selfish desires is the only way a relationship can grow. The realization that the world does not revolve around you is the key to any success. This is tough for most people, as so myself, to have to come to accept but once you do, you will see a light you thought never existed. Hope this helps and I look forward to any response. Take care.
Author Juristhea Posted May 2, 2009 Author Posted May 2, 2009 Hi Juristhea. Very interesting article. I have had some coffee shop discussions of a similar nature that have been quite interesting. The article is rather cliche or a common response to an issue with no factual basis. I personally believe that different cultures have created this romantic fantasy that everyone has another "half" out there; this was a prevalent belief in ancient Greece (the stories and legends of the Greek God Zeus). What I think happens is, people mistake compatible personalities mixed with a burning desire to love and be loved for what they would call a soulmate. In my opinion, the modern definition of a soulmate is nonexistent. It is more of a fairytale that Hollywood has overdramatized. Divorce is extremely high right now and I guarantee you many of those relationships were claimed to have been a "soulmate match". Well if that was the case, why would they be getting divorced? They most likely got divorced because they spent more time planning the wedding than the marriage by ignoring the real world and overemphasizing a fairytale life. Most people who try to convince themselves that predestined soulmates exist have been hurt in a previous relationship and are scared to try again, or are very selfish and lazy and want someone to fit into their life like a puzzle piece to their fantasy land picture. Ultimately, denying selfish desires is the only way a relationship can grow. The realization that the world does not revolve around you is the key to any success. This is tough for most people, as so myself, to have to come to accept but once you do, you will see a light you thought never existed. Hope this helps and I look forward to any response. Take care. Thanks but that is not my article. I just merely read it and shared them to you. Anyways, I am firm believer in soulmates, but on a whole different level. Me and my fiance are firm believers and we believe that we're perfect for each other, to the point that even our differences compliment each other, like how he's able to remember even the most vague details possible and how I can forget things after 5 minutes. We both have the same ideals, principles, train of thoughts and even likes and dislikes. I am not assuming that we are soulmates but I believe that how one compliments with his/her partner is one big factor to how a relationship can succeed.
northstar1 Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 I don't know if this is the right place to post and I'm pretty sure that this is a debatable topic. But the concept of soulmates: True or not? http://www.healthyboundaries.com/article6.html Please give me your inputs and opinions and/or violent reactions. Nice concept to have a leap of faith in, but IMO there are many people in the world that ultimately you can be compatible and have a mutual attraction and bond with. Ofcourse, you'll never meet the majority. But to think that there is only one true soulmate for each person in the world in some predetermined destiny is a fairytale.
Author Juristhea Posted May 2, 2009 Author Posted May 2, 2009 Nice concept to have a leap of faith in, but IMO there are many people in the world that ultimately you can be compatible and have a mutual attraction and bond with. Ofcourse, you'll never meet the majority. But to think that there is only one true soulmate for each person in the world in some predetermined destiny is a fairytale. I agree on the fairy tale part, but it never means that happy endings never happen right? Anyways, more articles about soulmates: http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Truth-About-Soul-Mates&id=1072781 http://ezinearticles.com/?Soul-Mates---Is-it-True-That-Everyone-Has-an-Ideal-Mate-Or-Are-They-a-Doppelganger?&id=2162173
amaysngrace Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 I believe fully in the concept of soulmates. But of course it's because I have had a soulmate experience.
northstar1 Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 I agree on the fairy tale part, but it never means that happy endings never happen right? Anyways, more articles about soulmates: http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Truth-About-Soul-Mates&id=1072781 http://ezinearticles.com/?Soul-Mates---Is-it-True-That-Everyone-Has-an-Ideal-Mate-Or-Are-They-a-Doppelganger?&id=2162173 OFcourse everyone can have a happy ending if they meet someone who ulimately compliments their life.
Author Juristhea Posted May 2, 2009 Author Posted May 2, 2009 OFcourse everyone can have a happy ending if they meet someone who ulimately compliments their life. Well said, northstar... Very well said. Happy endings happen not because you want it but you make it happen to be possible.
You'reasian Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 I believe fully in the concept of soulmates. But of course it's because I have had a soulmate experience. I do too. I've dated around, but only a very, very few have really connected on an unearthly level
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