xpaperxcutx Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 I asked artist guy to go to the Metropolitan Museum with me on Sunday, but I didn't make an exact time. He told me he was going to have brunch with his grandma that day, and I just dumbly wrote him to just let me know. Did I just put the ball in his court? Because I'm now worried he won't even contact me. Honestly, I'm an idiot.
DunnoWhat Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 Don't worry about it. If he likes you he'll contact you.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 2, 2009 Author Posted May 2, 2009 Don't worry about it. If he likes you he'll contact you. I have this unsettling feeling that he will either 1) tell me on the date of the meet or 2) cancel out on me....
Ronni_W Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 He told me he was going to have brunch with his grandma that day, and I just dumbly wrote him to just let me know. It's possible that HE thinks he already said, "No, not this Sunday because I'm having brunch with my Grandma." You could do a second response, "Hey! On 2nd thought, sounds like maybe this Sunday isn't that good for you(?) Do you want to make it the Sunday after Mother's Day? I was thinking around <time>. Have a great w/e, and enjoy brunch with your Grandma :)" As of now, he can't so much "cancel" on you cos there isn't a firm "date" in place yet...at least, you guys don't have a time sorted out, on top of which he may already have said "no" (just in that foreign language that takes a whole bunch of women to decipher...*IF* you know what I mean? )
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 2, 2009 Author Posted May 2, 2009 It's possible that HE thinks he already said, "No, not this Sunday because I'm having brunch with my Grandma." You could do a second response, "Hey! On 2nd thought, sounds like maybe this Sunday isn't that good for you(?) Do you want to make it the Sunday after Mother's Day? I was thinking around <time>. Have a great w/e, and enjoy brunch with your Grandma :)" As of now, he can't so much "cancel" on you cos there isn't a firm "date" in place yet...at least, you guys don't have a time sorted out, on top of which he may already have said "no" (just in that foreign language that takes a whole bunch of women to decipher...*IF* you know what I mean? ) Ronni he said he'll meet me, he just didn't say when. He said " afterwards". So am I suppose to assume he's just going to leave me hanging for the day? What am I trying to decipher? That he had really wanted to back out and I made it seem like I forced him to go with me?
Ronni_W Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 Ronni he said he'll meet me, he just didn't say when. He said " afterwards". Nope - I missed that part. If he said he's gonna meet you afterwards, then that is his plan! I think it's fine for you to have asked him to let you know the time -- I think if it gets to Saturday afternoon and you don't yet have the time...well, I'm the kinda gal who would get back in touch with him at that point, to find out if I need to make other plans for Sunday (is how I'd put it.) In any case -- I hope you (BOTH) will have a swell time at the museum, THIS Sunday after his 'brunch with Grandma'
dressing up Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 xpaperxcutx, I applaud your persistence and bravery. Whatever the results, I find it so difficult to ask guys out. But for you, at least you won't not know and think of all the what ifs. I hope the museum on Sunday works out.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 2, 2009 Author Posted May 2, 2009 xpaperxcutx, I applaud your persistence and bravery. Whatever the results, I find it so difficult to ask guys out. But for you, at least you won't not know and think of all the what ifs. I hope the museum on Sunday works out. Thank you so much. I just felt like if I didn't ask this guy out, he wasn't going to ask me. I know it's such a big risk ( getting rejected) but sometimes if I don't make the first move, who will? Now I hope it doesn't rain that day.
Kamille Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 Did I just put the ball in his court? Yes. And there's nothing wrong with that. Sometimes putting the ball in the other's court lets them take the lead. He will call you on sunday. That's the day after tomorow. Read: really soon. Now stop fretting and do something fun that doesn't involve thinking about this guy.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 2, 2009 Author Posted May 2, 2009 Yes. And there's nothing wrong with that. Sometimes putting the ball in the other's court lets them take the lead. He will call you on sunday. That's the day after tomorow. Read: really soon. Now stop fretting and do something fun that doesn't involve thinking about this guy. haha Kamille you got me again. Maybe I'm already tiring LShackers with my constant updates on this guy. You know its really weird, when I'm waiting for something to happen, like for Sunday to come real soon, it just seems tommorrow would go really slow for me. I think I'm going to go get jacked up on Redbull tom just so I would tire myself out.
Kamille Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 I don't get tired of it - I think it's cute. I recognize myself in the scenario. You should plan some great fun outing for yourself tomorow. That way, not only will time fly by, you'll be more relaxed on Sunday and you will have stuff to talk about with your date.
Trialbyfire Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 xpaperxcutz, my take is that this guy is giving off low-interest vibes. If he doesn't call on Sunday, consider him a write off. No more pursuit.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 3, 2009 Author Posted May 3, 2009 xpaperxcutz, my take is that this guy is giving off low-interest vibes. If he doesn't call on Sunday, consider him a write off. No more pursuit. Actually TBF, that's what I thought. But lo and behold, he contacted me today and confirmed the time with me. He told me he was going to be done with brunch at 2 and for us to meet at the Met at 3. I wonder why he had to text over actually calling? grr Now I'm just getting ready for tom. I just did a pedi and a mani, and I'm trying to think of what I should wear. Again, my stomach is in knots. I made some truffles the other day, do you think I should gift wrap some for him? Or would that be too fast?
IceWind Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 I made some truffles the other day, do you think I should gift wrap some for him? Or would that be too fast? Too fast and he hasn't shown signs of deserving it yet.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 3, 2009 Author Posted May 3, 2009 Too fast and he hasn't shown signs of deserving it yet. You're right. But I made too many truffles, and I don't really eat that much chocolate. Maybe I'll give them to my neighbor or something.
IceWind Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 You're right. But I made too many truffles, and I don't really eat that much chocolate. Maybe I'll give them to my neighbor or something. I'll never forget the time when I awoke very early one morning from a knocking on my door. Grunting and fumbling down the stairs, I opened the door to find my girlfriend all dressed up in a very cute dress with a basket full of fresh bannana nut muffins with a big smile on her face. Obviously, it was was surprise for me. I had known her about, oh two weeks or so "she actually got my drunk the evening we met so she could "keep" me longer" I"ll tell you one thing, i've never felt so loved and honored by a woman in all my life then when she did that surprise muffin visit. I fell completely in love with her after that...
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 3, 2009 Author Posted May 3, 2009 I'll never forget the time when I awoke very early one morning from a knocking on my door. Grunting and fumbling down the stairs, I opened the door to find my girlfriend all dressed up in a very cute dress with a basket full of fresh bannana nut muffins with a big smile on her face. Obviously, it was was surprise for me. I had known her about, oh two weeks or so "she actually got my drunk the evening we met so she could "keep" me longer" I"ll tell you one thing, i've never felt so loved and honored by a woman in all my life then when she did that surprise muffin visit. I fell completely in love with her after that... Haha that's so cute. I had actually wanted to surprise artist with a bento box of sushi, but I don't really have time right now to make rice. That's why I thought the truffles were such a good idea. I figured since he loves chocolate, and I have a dozen of them, I might as well make a little chocolate box for him.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 3, 2009 Author Posted May 3, 2009 Serious question. After trying all of my prettiest clothes just now, I have decided on an open sleeve loose blue top with white capri pants, and 4 inch black heels. I figured since i wore a skirt our last meeting, this time I go with something casual like capri pants that show off a little leg, and open toe heels that show off my newly painted red toe nails. The only thing I'm worried about is I think that wearing heels might be too awkward for him. Artist guy is a bit on the short side. So if I wear my heels I'm afraid I might tower over him. I mean it would be SO AWKWARD. But I don't have any other shoes that's opened toe. Unless I go with sandals or something, but then we're going to the museum and I don't think it's appropriate? Anybody know fashion?
Island Girl Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 That's why I thought the truffles were such a good idea. I figured since he loves chocolate, and I have a dozen of them, I might as well make a little chocolate box for him. I am just commenting in case you are now thinking the truffles are a good idea. They still aren't. The cute story was a guy and his girlfriend. You aren't a girlfriend yet. You already asked him out and really that is quite enough effort on your part and it is his turn to make some kind of move to go forward after this Met date.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 3, 2009 Author Posted May 3, 2009 I am just commenting in case you are now thinking the truffles are a good idea. They still aren't. The cute story was a guy and his girlfriend. You aren't a girlfriend yet. You already asked him out and really that is quite enough effort on your part and it is his turn to make some kind of move to go forward after this Met date. Oh right, I think I read his post too post, that I forgot the girlfriend title. Okay then, I wont bring the truffles.
dreamergrl Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 You can send me the truffles I think they'd be too much too. I think it's great he set up a time with you, but remember, you've been doing the chasing!!! Don't get too attached
IceWind Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 The only thing I'm worried about is I think that wearing heels might be too awkward for him. Artist guy is a bit on the short side. So if I wear my heels I'm afraid I might tower over him. I mean it would be SO AWKWARD. But I don't have any other shoes that's opened toe. Unless I go with sandals or something, but then we're going to the museum and I don't think it's appropriate? Woman that are taller then men are VERY intimidating for us, so the high heels for your first meeting are a big no no unless you know for sure he will stand taller. I swear, I feel like my penis is gonna fall off when some of those tall college basketball and volleyball girls pass by me in public, I feel so..... umanly.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 3, 2009 Author Posted May 3, 2009 Woman that are taller then men are VERY intimidating for us, so the high heels for your first meeting are a big no no unless you know for sure he will stand taller. I swear, I feel like my penis is gonna fall off when some of those tall college basketball and volleyball girls pass by me in public, I feel so..... umanly. But it's not our first meeting tho. I mean if I have shorter heels I would wear it. Should I just go with sandals then?
IceWind Posted May 3, 2009 Posted May 3, 2009 But it's not our first meeting tho. I mean if I have shorter heels I would wear it. Should I just go with sandals then? Even still, a inch or two taller then the guy sends us scary messages. Wear sandals until you get to know eachother better or are going to a nice place.
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