enchanted771 Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 I really like this guy. We have went on 4 dates, but I have yet to meet his family. We talk every night, he doesnt turn down time to go out together, and doesnt ever flake out or anything, asks about me, and we are trying to get to know each other. Just wondering what the reason could be.
BobSacamento Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 4 dates......don't think in terms of dates, think in terms like months and years lol.
BobSacamento Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 It's still early. However, memorial day and 4th of july are coming up. If I were him I'd wait until then for the a family BBQ, totally casual and what not.
Author enchanted771 Posted May 1, 2009 Author Posted May 1, 2009 Just wondering if it is around 6 months or what. He is only close with his mom.
alphamale Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 I really like this guy. We have went on 4 dates, but I have yet to meet his family. We talk every night, he doesnt turn down time to go out together, and doesnt ever flake out or anything, asks about me, and we are trying to get to know each other. Just wondering what the reason could be. depends on the girl and the relationship. i dated one woman for 4 years and she only met my family once. then i dated one woman who met my family after a month. and everything in between. generally i'll wait around 4 to 6 months before introducing a new lover to me family
Kamille Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 4 dates in two months? Sounds like a slow-paced beginning of something. I can't help but wonder why you would already be concerned about not-meeting the family.
Kamille Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 whats wrong with that? Nothing at all. Only, with that kind of pace in the relationship, I wouldn't be anywhere near thinking it's time I meet the family.
Trialbyfire Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 4 dates in two months? Sounds like a slow-paced beginning of something. I can't help but wonder why you would already be concerned about not-meeting the family.Talk about a low interest relationship and deferring concerns, from the most pertinent, to the least important. I had a guy try to surprise me with "meet the parents" night, after 3 dates. It freaked me out to the point where a relationship wasn't going to happen.
alphamale Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 I had a guy try to surprise me with "meet the parents" night, after 3 dates. It freaked me out to the point where a relationship wasn't going to happen. then there is the other end of teh spectrum where you get the "surprise-meet-the-parents" night three years into the relationship
Trialbyfire Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 then there is the other end of teh spectrum where you get the "surprise-meet-the-parents" night three years into the relationship Who would stick around for three years, if they're being hidden?
alphamale Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 Who would stick around for three years, if they're being hidden? mainly those with low self esteem - of which there is no shortage
MichiganMan222 Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 If I were you, I wouldn't be focused on meeting parents so much as I would increasing frequency of seeing each other more than once every two weeks. Seems like you're putting the cart before the horse.
DunnoWhat Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 Don't presume guys hide the GF from the parents. It could also be the other way around.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 If you can't bring your SO home to meet the rents, its only one of two things. You're ashamed of them or you have something to hide.
alphamale Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 If you can't bring your SO home to meet the rents, its only one of two things. You're ashamed of them or you have something to hide. what if you just don't feel like it?
missmich Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 My family lives on the other side of the country and also I'm estranged from them and have been for many years,I only speak with one family member once in a while. So no one I date is likely to meet any of my family or my parents. The guy I'm dating now,well I think we had about 3 dates maybe in about 6 days and then I met his parents and sister! We didn't mean for it to happen and they were surprised to meet me to. It was a very quick hand shake and how are you and that was it. I'm not sure when I'll be meeting them again,but it will probably be more of a proper introduction and getting to them dinner or something if we start to get serious with each other.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 what if you just don't feel like it? your gfs must all think you'll real lazy.
alphamale Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 your gfs must all think you'll real lazy. most of them didn't deserve to meet the family....they were worthless, in retrospect giggity
Kamille Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 most of them didn't deserve to meet the family....they were worthless, in retrospect giggity Not even worth a good shag??
alphamale Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 Not even worth a good shag?? oh they were worth that, but sex is a commodity, not unlike gasoline
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