You'reasian Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 The reason why I'm asking is because I'm single, def. enjoying it and I've been thinking about someone I met a number of years ago.....she and I really hit it off - with no expectations. Our paths crossed randomly. We were completely different people then, had little in common as far as a few general interests - careers completely different but our personalities connected in an extremely powerful way. For some reason, we felt very comfortable around each other - perhaps we were re-connected souls? She really understood me and I was always able to listen and greatly appreciate her. She was the kind of girl that wouldn't mind just hanging out doing nothing yet we really had a great time doing just that. I don't want to get into too many details here (since she could be on this site and who knows where she is in life) - but I'm sure if she was reading this, I'm sure she's thought of this at least once since that time and maybe it might bring a smile to her beautiful face. Has anyone re-connected with someone they were with? If so, what was it like?
kizik Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 Well, yeah, I dated the same girl three times and she always dumps me. There's a reason the two of you broke up. It'll surface again, just ye wait.
Author You'reasian Posted May 1, 2009 Author Posted May 1, 2009 There's a reason the two of you broke up. It'll surface again, just ye wait. This one ended rather favorably. It was far from a bad break-up.
sfsassy Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 The reason why I'm asking is because I'm single, def. enjoying it and I've been thinking about someone I met a number of years ago.....she and I really hit it off - with no expectations. Our paths crossed randomly. We were completely different people then, had little in common as far as a few general interests - careers completely different but our personalities connected in an extremely powerful way. For some reason, we felt very comfortable around each other - perhaps we were re-connected souls? She really understood me and I was always able to listen and greatly appreciate her. She was the kind of girl that wouldn't mind just hanging out doing nothing yet we really had a great time doing just that. I don't want to get into too many details here (since she could be on this site and who knows where she is in life) - but I'm sure if she was reading this, I'm sure she's thought of this at least once since that time and maybe it might bring a smile to her beautiful face. Has anyone re-connected with someone they were with? If so, what was it like? I just connected with my first ex, from like 16 years ago, lol. Our breakup was pretty bad, but it was a LONGG time ago, and I think a lot of it had to do with our youngness. Anyway, he lives across the country from me now, so we have been communicating by Facebook ims. It has been fun. I have no desire to get back with him, but appreciate his friendship and how he approaches life. I think one of the big reasons it was fine was due to the fact we have both moved on, had other heartbreaks, experiences.
dreamergrl Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 I 'reconnected' with a high school bf. He turned out to be a bad alcoholic. Shortly after the broken engagement, I reconnected with my exfiance in between the sheets twice (bad idea, got me all back emotionally involved). Then there's the recent new/old guy that I hung out with three weeks ago as friends, but he supposedly wanted to date again. I wasn't single, but am now, but that's still not a good idea probably. I am probably the worst person to be answering this right now
Author You'reasian Posted May 2, 2009 Author Posted May 2, 2009 This one ended rather favorably. It was far from a bad break-up. This is one that didn't last longer than a summer, was def. hot and ended because of a work transfer - it sort of fizzled out after that, nothing really bad.
paddington bear Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 Hmmm, I find that when I'm lonely and there's no dates going on (which is all the f*****g time ha ha) that my mind wanders to the 'what if's' and what could have beens, whereas when there's a new object of lust in my eyeline my mind doesn't even dredge up anyone from the past. I do think sometimes after years have passed you can meet someone again and it can work out second time round, you've both grown as people, circumstances have changed and so on. But, due to your being single right now, your mind drifting back to someone from years ago is different from being single and feeling you cannot live without someone, that you let a good thing go, that the love of your life is lost to you forever. I think in your case your mind simply needs to remember that once there was someone who you had a connection with, you say you enjoy being single, but maybe a little part of you misses that emotional connection of a relationship.
Author You'reasian Posted May 2, 2009 Author Posted May 2, 2009 Hmmm, I find that when I'm lonely and there's no dates going on (which is all the f*****g time ha ha) that my mind wanders to the 'what if's' and what could have beens, whereas when there's a new object of lust in my eyeline my mind doesn't even dredge up anyone from the past.. To the contrary, I had a really nice date not too long ago with a great woman. We keep in touch and I think she's a wonderful person. I do think sometimes after years have passed you can meet someone again and it can work out second time round, you've both grown as people, circumstances have changed and so on. But, due to your being single right now, your mind drifting back to someone from years ago is different from being single and feeling you cannot live without someone, that you let a good thing go, that the love of your life is lost to you forever. I think in your case your mind simply needs to remember that once there was someone who you had a connection with, you say you enjoy being single, but maybe a little part of you misses that emotional connection of a relationship. I enjoy the excitement of what being single brings but I also enjoy the conection of relationships - I don't compare the two because they are different
yeex Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 I'm a little unclear. You said it fizzled because of a work transfer. Is she in the same city as you or what? Have you seen her recently or are just wondering if you should call her up again?
Author You'reasian Posted May 2, 2009 Author Posted May 2, 2009 I'm a little unclear. You said it fizzled because of a work transfer. Is she in the same city as you or what? Have you seen her recently or are just wondering if you should call her up again? No, she's far away. Haven't seen her in a long time. Don't even have her number anymore and thus no way of contacting her - I think I was just appreciating a good memory.
BubblyPopcorn Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 Tell us more tell us more, shoop bop bop yeah! haha
Kamille Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 It is sweet. I have an ex like that too. We had a great few weeks together and then things fizzled. I still think about him sometimes.
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