mr.jekyll Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 I work at an ice cream store and there's a girl I have seen a few times. We have never flirted but she yesterday suggested we go for coffee. It was done casually. Does it mean she's interested romantically or just being friendly? I can't really read the signs. Any ideas?
single ape Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 maybe instead of asking you should go for coffee and find out? You're getting ahead of yourself dude.. she likes you enough to have coffee with you.. work with it!
Author mr.jekyll Posted May 1, 2009 Author Posted May 1, 2009 Yeah, I know. I'm not good at this. I just want to have something (the general public's opinions) to work on, not trying to overthink it. So it could mean anything, either way?
TheLostBoy Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 dude, go get coffee with her, and just be yourself! get to know her, and just see how things go.you don't know if you don't try. and thats how you regret things. so just go into this with an open mind, and whatever happens happens. hope this helps
single ape Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 put it this way.. she likes you more than the ice cream server she didn't ask to coffee.. and that's about the most you're going to get usually until you reciprocate.
Author mr.jekyll Posted May 2, 2009 Author Posted May 2, 2009 This is all new to me. Has any guy out there ever been asked out by a girl and then told that she's only asking him out because she wants him as only a friend? I'm going to see her and want the right frame of mind as much as possible.
Kamille Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 well what about you? how do you feel about her? do you want a friendship or would you like to get to know her on a romantic level?
Author mr.jekyll Posted May 2, 2009 Author Posted May 2, 2009 I don't know her so can't decide one way or another. I can only think of getting to know her before making a decision. My previous experiences have not been the best and I do not want to make a fool of myself.
Kamille Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 I don't know her so can't decide one way or another. I can only think of getting to know her before making a decision. That's your answer: that's your state of mind. It sounds like the best way to go about it to me. She probably finds something about you interesting - and my guess is she probably finds you attractive- but she doesn't actually know you either. So all she probably is also hoping to get to know you better. I hope you have a nice time.
dressing up Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 I've asked guys out purely on a friendship basis. I don't see all dates as being romantically involved. I don't even need to think them as attractive. As long as I think they're good company, we can hang out. Now I just wish some of the guys I've asked out don't overthink!
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