princesspink Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 Me and my boyfriend had a major row last week but over the week we have talked about it and came to a truce and sorted it out and for a few days we have been absolutly fine. We are both at the same university and have been dating for 7 months. Yesterday he came home from being at his work placement (which started just before the argument) and started crying saying that he doesn't know what but something feels wrong about us. I asked him if he doesn't love me as much anymore or if he is not happy in the relationship and he said that he love's me the same and wants our relationship to carry on just that he didn't know how he was feeling or why he was feeling this way. He has talked to many of our friends and both of our parents and they all say that he just seems confused but that they have all got the same message that he does love me, there is noone else and that he does want to be in this relationship for the short and long term. We decided that as we were supposed to be visiting my relatives that i should come alone so that he can have thinking time. I have being doing really well by not texting and phoning all teh time and just letting him tell me how he is feeling. I am very confused because when i was on the train home he phoned to say that he was sorry and that he felt better about the relationshiop and that he did not want to be apart from me and that he does love me and that he does want to be with me but he can't say that he will yet because he is not 100% as he still does not know why he is feeling this way. I am finding this very hard as this is my first relationship and would appreciate any advise that anyone can give. Thank you
broken_promises Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 I can't say that you are definitely breaking up, but it does sound like this might be the case. I think that a lot of guys get into relationships when they are younger and start to feel like they are missing out on something or that, if things aren't as exciting as they were in the beginning, think that something is wrong with the relationship. This reminds me of nearly every precursor I've had to a breakup. Mind you, it could be days or months or years before you and your boyfriend end up splitting. But usually this sort of thing comes up because someone thinks that there might be more outside of the relationship or feels stifled or believes the relationship is the cause of his/her unhappiness. I hope that things improve for you, but I would also caution you to not waste time with someone that is going to break your heart further down the road.
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