mlh5046 Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 I was in flirt mode with a girl who I was not aware was in a relationship for a few weeks. It is without a doubt in my opinion she was definitely interested as she texted or called me several times a week. Once I found out she had a bf I kinda cut her off and now she is upset with me. She really just avoids the topic and I told her let me know when your single. But isn't it on her to just break up with her boyfriend so we can proceed? Or should I just proceed and will she break up with her bf eventually? SHould I stay away all together, is she a psycho b*tch, haha? Like part of me says she might want to feel me out first to see if I am "worthy" of replacing her current bf. But the other part of me says well is she really that insecure that she can't break up with her current bf. I mean obviously things aren't going well with her man if shes doing this with me, so she should be breaking up with him regardless but shes too insecure not too. Any tipss???
BobSacamento Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 She's smart. She's keeping her options open. It's that or she loves the attention. Either way, to me, it's fairly unattractive.
Sephirothh Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 Play the stupid game or find someone else I would stick with it unless you can't handle the guilt of messing with someones relationship even though its probably not tight to begin with....she is a fool first off that most likely isn't in love with her man or that serious with him anyway so you have a good chance....this will be a thrill ride that will be interesting though so don't give up. Small talk is key here, and DO NOT show too much interest or she will run back to her man, play cool, play smart, play kinda like a friend and you will get her. Keep your options open as well
shoesies05 Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 dude- she flirts with you, its not a big deal. plenty of people flirt casually, but dont mean anything by it. id say girls especially more than guys. they arent thinking of leaving their man just because they find you attractive or fun to flirt with. it takes more than that. besides- would u really want a girl to just leave her man that easily for you? just means she would do it to you once she found someone else thats fun to flirt with. think about it. to me- i think of flirting like dancing... most girls go dancing to have fun and DANCE, most guys go to meet chicks... most girl flirt to hve fun and flirt... most guys do it to get the chick. maybe im wrong about this- but its how i take it. doesnt mean i go flirting with guys other than my bf all the time, because that can be really hurtful and is unneccessary. but the occassional flirt isnt bad. she probably thinks of it very casually. one more thing. if you are REALLY interested in MORE than sex ( like a relationship)- why would u up and ditch her once you find out she has a man? why not be her friend and get to know her better, at least to enjoy her company if anything. just my thoughts.
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