falseprophet Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 Ok, So let me lay this out for you. I'm 23 years old, I am happily in a relationship (will divulge more later). I am a straight forward a-hole. People don't like me because the things I say to them, or the way I feel about the things I like. I can count my "close friends" on both my hands. The people who like me somehow deal with my attitude. I listen to metal, I work in a shop, I get dirty and yet I clean up to take my lady out and I play golf. I have been in a relationship for 3 1/2 years, we are living together happily and planning on more. We have been through good times and bad and every time we come out on top. Some would say we have the "perfect" relationship and at times I agree. Corny moment= she is the ying to my yang, if you will. She puts up with me, and she even sends things back my way that I would never expect out of anyone. If I make a rude comment, she comes right back at me and we laugh about it together. On and off I have a tendency to let my mind wander, which most know that when a man's mind wanders its never a good thing. I sometimes get nervous and worry that she is cheating on me, even when I know she isn't. Other times I worry that I am not treating her good enough and that I don't satisfy her the way I feel I should. I devote myself to her fully and I will go to the end of the world for her. She assures me that she is happy with me and I have nothing to worry about but I still worry sometimes. I am not looking for lectures, all I am looking for is someone with sound advice. I love this woman and I want her to be mine and only mine for the rest of our lives. I would do anything for her. If anyone out there has any helpful advice to raise my self esteem (number one reason people worry about relationships) I would greatly appreciate it.
bean1 Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 If you were 10 years older, I'd think "hmmm... why is my SO here?" You sound just like him. All I can say is to "believe" that she is true and faithful, because she hasn't proven otherwise. I've been dogged in the past but I know he is a good man and won't do anything to lose that.
Sephirothh Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 alright first things first there is some things that you need to drop if you want to at least keep her happy, now there is a difference between keeping her, and keeping her happy. By you being the way you are you shouldn't have a problem keeping her. Most Girls tend to sway and stay with the bad boy sh)tty attitude because they of a fail feeling in their minds that this is love and your going to eventually change this that and the other thing, but fact of the matter is, if you don't treat her right and ease up with the stupid rude remarks because even though she might show it as not hurting her, deep down a small part of her does not want to hear that. ANd it's a sign of respect Never look at someone you love and care about as "she puts up with me" that indeed shows fail and probably puts up with you for a number of reasons, not all those reasons are going to be good reasons, but that is a perspective that needs to change immediately or you will slowly see your girl fade farther and farther from you when she realizes what the heck she is doing. tell yourself this, would you want to put up with a girl and base a relationship on that. Now you say you don't think when she tells you everything is ok that she is being truthful, then that right there is a warning sign that maybe your "gut feeling" is correct. If things were really good then you wouldn't be feeling like that. If your not fully sure in trusting what she says then this could be of many problems, most likely on your end....so tell yourself this would you want to put the effort in to make this a better relationship, do you take her out enough? Do you get along with her family? do you get along with her friends? Does she see her friends enough? IS there more good then bad or vice versa if there is more bad times then fix it? Does she want to have kids when she is older, does she even talk about it with you? Start with the basics and work your way up from there, but like I said before you want advice drop the bullSH)T she puts up with you because that is not a perfect relationship in one bit, i dont know who is feeding you that garbage. If you worry that your not treating her good enough, then that means you probably aren't there is no gray area in that department.
spiracles Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 you work in a shop? like an automotive shop? you gonna be changing out timing belts and flushing transmissions for the rest of your life, or do you have plans to do something else. cause girls seem to like ambition and **** like that.
Author falseprophet Posted May 1, 2009 Author Posted May 1, 2009 Again im 23, and yes I work in an auto shop. Im also in school for my AAS in Business Administration, with all good intentions of aquiring my BABBA (Bachelors). On top of that I have been free lancing on computers for 5 years, I am certified A+ and I am working on my N+ and S+ certifications. I work in a shop because im young and when something happens to her car I don't want someone to take advantage of her and screw her. You take your car in for brakes and pay 100$ up to 500$ depending on what gets replaced, I pay 20$ to 100$ parts only cuz I can do it all myself. Just another form of schooling my friend.
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