HopesandDreams Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 Okay I posted here before about a guy I met who wanted to meet up. Here is the story again. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2142893#post2142893 I was concerned at first that he started talking about sex early and figured that was all he wanted. I have been in those types of relationships before and don't mind them but was hoping to find something a little more this time. I have talked to this guy some more and he seemed like he really did only want sex even though he kept denying it. I said what the hell it may be fun so we agreed to meet up. Besides I'm really attracted to him and it's been awhile since I have done anything like this. I talk to him tonight to find out when he would like to meet. He says Saturday night is good for him so I agree. He then asks are you sure you want to do this? Don't you want to hang out some first? I'm like what the hell??? I thought this was what he wanted? Sex with no strings attached. He also seemed a bit distant tonight. I agree to hang out since I was okay with that to begin with. I ask him if he is sure he still wants to meet up and he says yes. A few days ago he also asked me if we got a room together would I stay the whole night. I said probably not and he said well that is just a waste I wish you would consider staying the night. He said if I spent the night it would give us time to cuddle. I have only done this type of thing twice but this is very different from what I'm used to. I understand that each guy is different but before with the other two guys there were no cuddling, they did not ask me to spend the night, and they did not want to hang our and do other things.......it was strictly sex. Like I said he was a little distant tonight so my questions are does he just want to hook up? Does he want something more? Did he just lose interest in me?
falseprophet Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 There is a good possibility he only wants to hook up with you, the reason he may be asking you to stay is that he thinks that's what you want, or he doesn't want to make you feel used. Its also a good possibility that he may want you to stay because he is looking for more, with guys its hard to tell, I know cuz I am one. I have learned from experience though that going into a relationship for one reason may lead to something entirely different. If you don't want anything more then a hookup then you need to express that to him. You may scare him off or you may not. The biggest thing is that you need to try it and see what happens, don't get your hopes up to high though, neither of you needs to be hurt by this, go into it knowing it may be a fling and you will be ok. Theres really not much else to do about the situation, only time will tell.
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