Star Gazer Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 I think you subconsciously equate sex with love, and therefore try to make yourself sexy in order to gain love from men. You try to hard to exude sexiness. Even your purposeful, obvious pout in your avatar is demonstrative of this. Your confusion of love with sex, and therefore your efforts to come across as sexy to gain attention, is why men think that they can use you to get their rocks off, and tell you about being horny in the hopes that you'll satisfy them. This is why after you sleep with men you barely know, you detach from them emotionally (because you didn't get the "love" feeling afterall). I suspect that your father wasn't around growing up...? Am I right?
fishtaco Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 Yikes!!! I pity the fool that disagrees with SG. xpaperxcutx run away and hide!!!
Lizzie60 Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 It's kind of creepy that people remember everyone's story like that.. I guess some people take notes.. WOW!!! I also find it quite amusing to see all the 'kitchen psychologists'... that need to analyse everything... but yet can't even deal with their own problems..
Star Gazer Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 It's kind of creepy that people remember everyone's story like that.. I guess some people take notes.. WOW!!! Says the chick who always makes digs at me for things I said a LONG TIME ago. Hey, a person's history is a person's history. I can relate to some posters, like Paper. I can relate to how she's feeling now, as I was once there before. Her posts resonate with me, that's why they stand out in my mind. I also find it quite amusing to see all the 'kitchen psychologists'... that need to analyse everything... but yet can't even deal with their own problems.. Don't start with me, Lizzie. I could go on and on about what I find "creepy." Besides, I'm problem free.
Els Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 I think you subconsciously equate sex with love, and therefore try to make yourself sexy in order to gain love from men. You try to hard to exude sexiness. Even your purposeful, obvious pout in your avatar is demonstrative of this. Your confusion of love with sex, and therefore your efforts to come across as sexy to gain attention, is why men think that they can use you to get their rocks off, and tell you about being horny in the hopes that you'll satisfy them. This is why after you sleep with men you barely know, you detach from them emotionally (because you didn't get the "love" feeling afterall). I suspect that your father wasn't around growing up...? Am I right? Even IF someone enjoys indulging in ONS... What on earth does it have to do with whether or not she has a good/bad/absent father??! The pose in her avatar is merely a common trend followed by almost all Asian females who regularly post their pictures on the internet, by the way. Sort of the in-thing. I've many friends who post pictures of themselves in similar poses, and I don't think that most of the things you said befit them. So I wouldn't be so quick to extrapolate it to a person's perceptions on love and sex and how hard they're 'trying' to be sexy.
Lizzie60 Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 Says the chick who always makes digs at me for things I said a LONG TIME ago. Hey, a person's history is a person's history. I can relate to some posters, like Paper. I can relate to how she's feeling now, as I was once there before. Her posts resonate with me, that's why they stand out in my mind. Don't start with me, Lizzie. I could go on and on about what I find "creepy." Besides, I'm problem free. OMG.. give me an example.. I don't follow your story sorry... I usually have enough just reading the subject of your threads.. 'Soft water' 'What did you have for breakfast'.. I'm problem free too.. we all are..
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 1, 2009 Author Posted May 1, 2009 Okay, so you've had sex with two guys who you've also been in a relationship with. But I have to assume from your own posts that you're more experienced than that. With all due respect, I've always picked up a sort of Samantha Jones vibe from you regarding your sexuality. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=1848077&postcount=29 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=1848123&postcount=31 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=1848123&postcount=31 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=1835968&postcount=16 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t172417/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t187240/ I mean, one guy you were sleeping with/dating for just a few weeks, and then you dumped him. You let another guy cheat with you, via phone sex. You don't mind the occasional ONS. You help men out by "gratifying them sexually." And this is just from your threads. Your posts in others' threads reveals more. To each their own, really. All I'm saying is, if I can pick up the "I like to f*ck without strings" vibe from you through a computer screen, I'm sure the men you interact with can too... ya know? SG i feel slightly perturbed. Am I such an open book to people?
You'reasian Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 OMG.. give me an example.. I don't follow your story sorry... I usually have enough just reading the subject of your threads.. 'Soft water' 'What did you have for breakfast'.. I'm problem free too.. we all are.. Lizzie seems like a pretty cool gal
Lizzie60 Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 SG i feel slightly perturbed. Am I such an open book to people? No no.. paper... some people get obsessed with other posters.. go figure... Sometimes, words are taken out of context..
Star Gazer Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 SG i feel slightly perturbed. Am I such an open book to people? To me, yes. Takes one (an ex-one, actually) to know one, I suppose. So to all those that think I'm picking on an innocent fawn, I'm not. I'm recognizing the "old me." And I have a gut feeling I know why... Am I right though? About not having a strong father figure around? @StarGazer you are taking this way too seriously and you have infested all of xpapercut's threads with some kind of hateful and off the wall comment. I recall you doing that to another poster a few weeks ago to the point that they said they did not want to come back to the site. Are you still at the haunted house that you posted about the other night? Because you sound possessed. No, I'm at work. I guess you could consider my firm possessed though! I'm not taking this too seriously. I'm just calling it like I see it. Strangely enough, women who prey on married men (i.e., Lizzie) are mocking my so-called "analysis," and you're suggesting that I'm being mean... and yet in two other instances where I've described what I'm seeing directly to Paper, SHE AGREED WITH ME. This might be the third time...?
Star Gazer Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 Ignore her x, I think she might be a troll just looking to egg people on, read her other comments... ME??? A troll??? Hilarious!
Island Girl Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 ME??? A troll??? Hilarious! That's what I was thinking!!
Star Gazer Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 That's what I was thinking!! B*tchy, meany-pants, possessed, rude, no-nonsense, whatever... but not a troll!! BTW IG... everytime I watch Biggest Loser, I think of you... only because of the nationality of two of the contestants. Funny, huh?
Star Gazer Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 Aaaanyway... To answer your original questions xpapercut, I think a guy would only do something like that when he is testing the waters for no strings attached sex. He is putting out the fishingline to see if the girl is up for a hook-up. I agree. I'd also add that guys usually won't put "feelers" like that out to women they really respect. *shrug* Did someone actually do that? And how old is he if he did? She's already said they have. Many guys have with her. That is why I suggested she change who she interacts and how she presents herself. There is, afterall, only one common denominator...
Island Girl Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 B*tchy, meany-pants, possessed, rude, no-nonsense, whatever... but not a troll!! Exactly! And I'm right there w/you! BTW IG... everytime I watch Biggest Loser, I think of you... only because of the nationality of two of the contestants. Funny, huh? Not to threadjack but I had no idea...I'm going to have to check it out! Please PM time and day? To the OP. I am thinking you posted this thread because you are annoyed by the behavior. I completely understand why because it would repel me as well. If that is the case I think many here have suggested some self examination of how you are carrying yourself, etc. that somehow gives these guys the indication that this is okay. Star Gazer seems to identify with being treated like this or having similar situations in her past but has since changed some things so that she no longer gets this kind of attention. (SG correct me if I am wrong...?) In any event I think everyone is trying to be constructive.
Star Gazer Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 What I don't understand is that though we are all giving the same advice, those who had been in xpapercut's shoes, I can't say I personally have since I have never been one to put myself in odd situations where I had to do the pursuing with a guy, are the ones who are being really mean in the way they are expressing the advice. I don't understand the "repelling" comments, it's not like xpapercut is out prostituting herself for drugs and strung out on crack. She just made some wrong moves with a guy. You would think that people who have been in those shoes already would be more understanding and willing to contructively help her through this. JMO \ Oh well.... How was I not constructive? I, like most of the posters here, said exactly this: I think Paper needs to change the men she's interacting with AND the vibe she is sending to these men. Perhaps establishing a real relationship with them, as opposed to sleeping with them quickly, is a good start. That would be my suggestion. I stand by it.
Star Gazer Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 I suppose my advice wasn't well heeded, after last night's blow-job-on-the-second-date thing. Oh well.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 4, 2009 Author Posted May 4, 2009 I suppose my advice wasn't well heeded, after last night's blow-job-on-the-second-date thing. Oh well. Star why would you say that? I find your advice very constructive. I don't get why you assume a blow job would be a bad thing? Or does it make a slut? I don't see it like that though. I mean things just happen.
Star Gazer Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 Star why would you say that? I find your advice very constructive. I don't get why you assume a blow job would be a bad thing? Or does it make a slut? I don't see it like that though. I mean things just happen. Um, a blow job on the second date IS just as bad as having sex on the SECOND DATE. You had his penis in your mouth. How is that any different than having it in your vagina, in terms of maintaining respect from a man and not giving the appearance of promiscuity? It's really not. You just set yourself up as a FWB. That's why you didn't get a proper goodbye. If you're okay with that, then by all means... have at it. But me thinks from how hurt you get that that's NOT what you're looking for.
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