rip Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 I recently just got out of a love triangle, me being 17 and her being my first love. She had a boyfriend, abusive and "cool", and she dumped him and went back to him like 5 times. I was fairly intense throughout the whole situation, I truly believed that I would marry her, and I'm sure I'll laugh about it when I'm older, but for now that is what I still believe. last week we went away for a highschool trip and she dumped her boyfriend "for the last time" prior to leaving. The whole week we hugged and stuff, and she acted quite permisquious, slapping every guys ass whenever she could jokingly. I decided to just let it slide, it was only jokingly. Throughout the trip we talked about our future and stuff, and I was really happy. The day we came back, she sends me an e-mail saying that she doesnt love me and we clash and blah blah shell never love me. She asked to be my friend still and I said no. I advised her not to go running back to her boyfriend and she said she wouldnt, and the very next day shes dating him again. The boyfriend happens to think of me as his best friend, I've always thought of him as an *******. I'm just not a mean person and I guess he kind of likes being told off when he ****s up. Keep your enemies close I guess. Anyways, our group of friends consists of him, her and only other guys. She has a way of always being the center of attention with them. Whenever the boyfriend isn't around, all of his "friends" start **** talking about him. I kind of feel bad for the guy, his parents aren't people he can talk to, all his friends hate and betray him for his girlfriend, and I'm almost sure he knows that she has told me that she loves me. (At a party her mum was there and was saying rather loudly that she wanted us to have sex in a church, long story, and yes she's not the greatest mum lol) Now that I'm out of the triangle, I'm left with the desicion of implanting a seed of justice before I totally break everything off. Do I tell him of the things that she does behind his back? He could possibly see it all, but chooses to just close his eyes. But the real problem is that they are together now, I'm going NC with the girl and it's hard to watch them kissing right in front of me. There's a get together coming up with all my friends there, and I dont know if I should go or not. They always have sex at these get togethers, I dont know what I will do when I see them going to bed. I hate the feeling that she won, she gets to have fun while I stay at home crying. Its been half a week since we really broke up and I've been crying everyday, missing school. I just think that the best thing to do is stop sitting here doing nothing, it will accomplish just that. I do want to go, have fun for once, try and forget my troubles, but when they go in the room, gawd, how can I deal with it?
TaraMaiden Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 how do you deal with it? You write it ll down, methodically. One column. "what are the consequences of me revealing everything?" two column "what are the consequences of me not revealing everything?" Three column: "What MIGHT happen in my favour?" Four column "What might happen that goes against me?" Try to be dispassionate about it and to think logically. Short term consequences are usually very different to long-term. And remember one thing: you are 17, not 37. There is a lifetime ahead of you to learn and do new things. All of you. I don't think youth and wisdom, or experience, often sit hand in hand....
Author rip Posted May 2, 2009 Author Posted May 2, 2009 I told the guy that I know that he knows things he can't tell anyone, and that I'll listen and help him through anything he wants me to. He seemed really happy that I said that. However theres still the party issue tomorrow. Right now I'm happy, but for bad reasons, the girl had a panic attack today and couldn't face the day. I want to go out tomorrow, but I'm still worried about how I will feel when they close the door. I'm not sure I can handle it, but I can't let her own me like this.
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