Can a man attend strip clubs and watch porn still be in a committed relationship?

[Enema]

Yes, a man can look at lots of porn and go to strip clubs and be committed in a relationship.

 

I agree with Lizzie though that if he's going to strip clubs all the time, there could be a problem.

[Trialbyfire]

If he wants to watch lots of porn and attend strip clubs

Key word. If he's watching lots of porn and/or attending lots of strip clubs, he's got a serious problem.

 

Watch out for men with addictive personalities.

[Jersey Shortie]

It's all about self-control. How many Americans, holding legally registered guns, have gotten mad at someone and not shot them? A lot. So if you know there's a chance you'll get mad that day, why carry? Again, it's about self-control. Granted, the example is extreme, but it does illustrate my point.

 

That's exactly it. Alot of men apparently don't have self control. Because self control isn't knowingly putting yourself in a sexual situation to begin with and then preaching about how great and moral you are buy not actually humping a stripper. Why put yourself in that position in the first place?

 

As for Americans and self control, we are the biggest, most lazy, self indulgent group you could imagine. Lets try comparing to the amount of fat people there are today? THe amount of debt..the amount of people cheating on their partners. Please. We aren't a nation of self control. Most people are self indulgent and it's reflected in many aspects of our society. If you think sex is somehow exempt from this, you are only kidding yourself.

 

Besides, there's a greater chance of something happening when a guy goes out to a regular bar. One girl I used to date was beautiful and flirty. Invariably, every time I'd get up to go to the washroom, I'd come back and find out (from her) that someone walked by and gave her his number. But I never stopped taking her out to bars (we still went to that particular bar), and I never doubted her. Why? She had self-control, and I had faith in her.

 

It's an entirely different situation. She wasn't going to the bar with the purpose to pick up numbers. She wasn't takin her clothes off was she? How comfortable would you be with her taking her clothes off for a groupd of men and and dancing around for them?

 

And frankly, the issue isn't just about trust. It is also one of respect. Something alot of men apparently don't want to give their partners. How would men feel if their partner went out to emotionally get her needs met by other men? As long as she didn't sleep with them? I bet not too many would be too happy about that. But men always say "well I am a guy and I am sexual'. As if that should be any excuse or justifcation to behave like a heel when you have a committed relationsihp. It's ridiculous and self indulgent and not what real men should be. Real men protect their women first. Not themselves to indulge in frat party situations.

 

And for the record, in all the days I used to go to the strip club, I never saw any hint of 'validation' from it. It's hard to feel validated when you have to pay a woman to hang out with you. For us, (other than the fact that they used to let me in when I was 16 without carding me - yeah, I got in with only a beginner's license! ), it was as much a matter of being able to shrug off societal requirements for an hour or two. If you itch, scratch. If you've got gas, belch. If a girl walking by has a nice ass, say "look at the ass on her!". No remorse, no repercussions. It was a chance to not be what the world wanted us to be, even if only for a short while. Sure, some of the women were pretty (some were just butt-ugly), but as a girl I used to work with once said, "if you've seen one, you've seen 'em both". The girls became almost incidental after a while.

 

I find this whole paragraph deeply distrubting to tell you the truth. Of course it's easier to walk into a place where you don't have to act with any responsiblity or treat a woman like a human being. But I am sorry if that's what makes you feel like a man, you got major issues. You need to ask yourself why that makes you feel like a man, to treat other people with no regard or respect as if they are just there for your amusement. You watch to scratch yourself? You can't do that anywhere else? By the way, you proved my first point anyway. You said it's not about validation but then went ont to prove that that's exactly what it's about. You feel it validates you as a man. And that's quite sad if that is what you think makes you a man.

 

Granted, I'm not saying that all men think that way, or that nobody feels any sense of validation from it. That's just my experience and opinion.

 

Hunny, you gave every point exactly why men do get validation from it.