Al454 Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 So anyways.... I really wsh i had known of this forum before, probably would have helped me alot. I was in a relationship with a girl for a year and a half, we fell in love so fast, everything just clicked. We could spend every second of the day together and not get bored, not that we did, but we never got sick of each other. We never had any major issues, at the beginning she cheated broke it off at first and slept with her ex because she still had feeling for him, then realised she needed to move on and wanted to wait until she could give me her heart, which she did, and i didnt hold that against her as I have been there. And near the end she was hinting at engagement, and we had plans to move in together soon. Then around valentines day she came down too see me as I was in another city doing training for my job, so she came down for the weekend. She was hungover, she went to a big party the night before, which i had no issue with at all. We had a great romantic weekend, and I came back with her as my training was done monday. I noticed her constantly texting this new guy she had met at the party though, which seemed a little odd, and some pictures went up on facebook of the party and the two seemed very close. I started to get a little worried. And I told her how i felt, and she told me it was nothing. Then she barley spent anytime with me the following week, and told me we needed a 'break'. And sure enough, started seeing this new guy. She never gave me a straight answer to her reasons for breaking up with me, for 2 months, she would always get mad or upset when I asked, made me feel like hell. And the new guy wound up dumping her after seeing her for 2 weeks. I got tired of excuses, and not getting a straight answer. The whole time we were apart she would come see me on average once a week and would be like her normal self again, and we would be intimate, and she always still told me she loved me. So i finally got tired of it and told her straight out that I wasnt doing any of this anymore, and that I loved her, and knew i could be happy with her, but that she was either in my life as a lover, or out of it completely, because thats what i needed, and she cried, and got mad, and I told her I just wanted a straight answer as too what she wanted, and she told me she wanted to make us work... And im questioning whether or not I should have said that now... Any opinions?
Excellent Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 To me she has already cheated on you twice, wich makes me wonder how you can tolerate that. You obviously love her, wich i don't hold against you, but the question is, what do YOU want? If you still want to be with her, i wonder how long it would last before major trust issues starts to surface for real, if they haven't already.
CaliGuy Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 Bah. Twice is enough. She's just keeping you around until she finds Mr. Right. My question to you is do you love and respect yourself enough to get her out of your life or are you so insecure that you feel you can't live without her? Trust me, dude. You gotta be a man here and kick her to the curb. You deserve someone better than her. You just need to convincce yourself of that.
paperchase Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 Hey man. She's a cheater and a flake. The kind of girl that will always change her mind whose love you can never trust or be at ease with. I know these kind of women. Going back to her ex might be something you could accept. Maybe she jumped in too fast with you and had unresolved feelings for him. It happens and it sounds like she was honest. But the most recent indescretion is not ok. For one it shows a pattern. For two, she was not honest about it. And for three, she didn't come back on her own...she came back because the man she left you for rejected her. You are a second option at best and that's no way to live. When a woman pursues another man and pushes you away in the process without letting you know why it hurts. I've been there. It's very cowardly. She saw you once a week while she was chasing him just to string you along in case things didn't work out...and they didn't so now she is pulling that string. Cut that string now and don't look back. She's a bad seed.
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