DudeMan27 Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 Well I've thought it over for 6 1/2 weeks since we last saw each other or spoke, the day we broke up. My friends wife has stayed in contact with my ex and went to have lunch with her the other day. She mentioned to me that my ex is gettting ready to go out of town to visit a friend this weekend, then two days after that she is going to Europe for 3 weeks for a wedding of friends she met while studying abroad. She had mentioned wanting to go to this to me before, but couldnt get the time off work. Well her company went under and she now has the time to travel. I figured I couldnt let her leave and put this off another month. So I called last night, left a message. Just said, I wanted to say hi, and thought it'd be nice if we could talk again. I wanted to see how her job search was going. She called back an hour later, I was out with friends so I didnt answer. She left a message saying "hi, Im just returning your call. Actually calling you from the carride in between dinners, and stuff. Then told me about her trips and that the job search was on hold for now. She ended saying "Thanks for calling and hopefully we can catch up when I get back. Talk to you soon" I text her back saying "Sorry I missed her call Im out at dinner. Have a great time on your trip" Then it took her AN HOUR AND A HALF to text me back and just said "Thanks" So now I have this to analyze over and over for the next month. I asked my friends wife if she was dating anybody and she said she doesn think so. She said to the best of her knowledge she doesnt see anything to indicate that she is. But since all I do is overthink, I think she was with someone when she danced around telling me where she was going. She said "in between dinners and stuff" Then the hour and a half it took just to text me back. When I know this girl texts alot. So I cant help but think shes either with someone, or doesnt want to talk to me. I didnt expect her to be giddy with joy hearing my voice or anything, but if she truely cared about me like our mutual friend said, and wanted to be "100% supportive of me" She could have easily said in her message that I could call her back that night, or she would call me the next day. Instead I got a call back during a care ride. I realize shes busy, her job is ending this week and shes getting ready for 2 major trips, but I guess... I dunno. I guess I expected just a bit more than, "Hopefully we can catch up when I get back" It just sucks that two months ago the girl that ended phone calls with "Goodnight baby" is now giving me the standard, "well thanks for calling" and taking an hour and a half to text me back. I dont feel much worse or better after this, so im not sure if it was a good idea or not.
EmperorR Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 That's the thing that sucks when you break nc you analyze every word thatwas spoken etc., what's done is done though, sometimes it gves you closure sometimes it makes you wanting to no more.
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 bullcrap, she's dating someone, or screwing someone but she isnt letting the other female know because she knows you guys are still connected. Forget about the ex!!! Screw her and the past you had together! she isnt coming back!!!
in_limbo Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 first thing, how and why did you guys break up? most probably, she got confused when you called. maybe she's thinking the same things you're thinking. she got your machine too right? i bet she's wondering why you said you hoped you two could talk but when she called you, you weren't there. i've gotten some advice on not sounding too eager if and when my boyfriend (who asked for some time alone) contacts me again. are you trying to get back with her? arr! cut the mind games. tell her how you feel and what you want. you'll get closure from that.
kizik Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 Today is the first day of your new life. You will no longer break contact and allow her to hurt you. You may not have wanted the breakup, but now that it's happened, it is your responsibility to do any- and everything to protect your own heart. NO MORE texts or calls. Unless you want to go through that kind of heartbreak again. We do it to ourselves, again and again. Frankly, your ex has checked out and wants NOTHING to do with you. I'm really sorry, man, but that's the truth. First, accept it. Cry, get mad. Then, work on yourself. That means doing what you love, and ignoring that chick in the EXACT SAME WAY she's ignoring you. She's hurting you? Then take the power back.
EmperorR Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 Today is the first day of your new life. You will no longer break contact and allow her to hurt you. You may not have wanted the breakup, but now that it's happened, it is your responsibility to do any- and everything to protect your own heart. NO MORE texts or calls. Unless you want to go through that kind of heartbreak again. We do it to ourselves, again and again. Frankly, your ex has checked out and wants NOTHING to do with you. I'm really sorry, man, but that's the truth. First, accept it. Cry, get mad. Then, work on yourself. That means doing what you love, and ignoring that chick in the EXACT SAME WAY she's ignoring you. She's hurting you? Then take the power back. Kizik with the cold hard truth, I know it hurts now but it gets better, and trust me yometimes you need to know how mean and cold they are to you to finally get angry let go and move on instead of wondering. Now you know she doesn't want anything to do with you, not thinking of you and you nothing but a nuisance, cut your losses and move on as kizik says.
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