IfIwereabird Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]So I am so broken hearted. Why cant I stop thinking about the other woman, how much better she is than I. How much more beautiful she is, How much more put together she may be. I feel like she must be some hell of a woman to make my husband abandon me and his 3 young children. In fact he has been seeing this woman soo long term that he has not been there for the kids. The other part that makes me sad is that he carried on this affair for years. Again this woman must be really great. He has experienced so much out of life with her while isolating me and the kids. Wow she must be amazing! This is not how it was supposed to be!. He says that he admits to all wrong doing and being the bad guy in our marriage. Is this suppose to make me feel better. He also says that he is not going to fight me in court..whatever I want I will get. I feel like he is taking the easy way out ! So here we are ..Over 14 years of marriage. Cheating the whole time. I loved him the hwole time and believed that we could work whatever the issues were. (Little did I know that the issues were that he had another woman) He is sooo calm and collective while I am suffering with the children. What kind of person does this to someone? For me the pain is so devastating. And that great woman!! Man do I hate her and the idea of her. How can he be soo happy knowing that he destroyed 4 peoples lives. We are all sad because he is no longer around. He has abandoned us. Will I ever be ok? Will this aching pain ever go away? Will I someday feel like I want to live again? What do people do? Why can’t I stop thinking about this woman? Her beauty, her sexual prowess? And the fact that she is better that me and my children. [/sIZE][/FONT]
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 Her beauty, her sexual prowess? And the fact that she is better that me and my children. Just because he chose her doesn't make her better. It may not seem like it now, but eventually you'll see that his choosing her says nothing about you and a whole heck of a lot about him.
playlislay Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 Listen to yourself?!!! Hun, just because he is not with you does not make this woman a 'better' woman than you. Believe me. Yes, youre going to feel screwed up over it and I dont think being cheated on does a womans ego no good. You need to start thinking along the lines of 'Do you know what? Im a brilliant woman, Ive got three gorgeous children that I carried and gave birth to, Im beautiful and Im worthy of much more. She can have him!!'-get one over on the both of them by proving to yourself and them that you are an amazing woman and you can do much better. Funk him if he is going to be such an ass by cheating and going off with her. Funk the both of them! I hope all turns out well for you missy and remember- youre the best example of a woman your countries ever seen!!! )
hopesndreams Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 How the heck can she be better than you? She played around with a married man with 3 kids, your husband, all those years, that makes her twisted with evil. Better than you? No, no, no. Her and your husband did this, they own it, each 100% guilty of being morally corrupt. The worst part? They got away with it for years! It's despicable and no way should you be jealous of that tramp, get them both out of your mind, you are now free from their poison, live YOUR life and to h*ll with them.
bentnotbroken Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 A woman who will sleep with a MM and be happy that he walked out on his children, doesn't seem like much of a real woman to me. You have honored your commitments and proved your love by doing that. You didn't walk out when the going got hard, you stepped up like a real woman. Looks and sexual prowess doesn't make a female a woman. It just makes her a cute freak. NOTHING more. Don't give her more power than she possesses. You have given birth, nurtured and loved your children. That takes a beautiful person to shine through the ***** of motherhood.
now_what Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 Please, please, please, don't EVER think this woman is better than you. She is not even worth thinking about. She has no morals, scruples, principles, - she has nothing. My ex husband left me for another woman after 30 years of marriage - he sent me an email and moved out of the house while I was at work, leaving me and our 16 year old daughter so he could shack up with an old biker chick he had known for all of two months. Truthfully, she is nothing to me. For her to help a married man she barely knew plot his escape and move in with her shows that she is not worth thinking about either. This was last September, we divorced last month. Your husband does not deserve you - he and his woman can join my ex and his girlfriend in the piece of sh** club. It's a club for stupid, selfish people who have lost their minds. You and I have something in common that we can always be proud of - we were where we belonged, taking care of our families instead of being deceitful and selfish. Please take care of yourself and your children and do not obsess over this woman - she is not worth another thought.
norajane Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 You're focusing in on her and how much "better" you think she must be, because what your husband did has no logical explanation and your brain is trying to find a logical explanation for his behavior. At some point, you will realize it has nothing to do with you in comparison to her, and that it's your husband that is thoroughly BROKEN inside as a human being - AND ALWAYS WAS from the day you married him. I'm sorry you are hurting now. And it will be a long road for you. But you have your beautiful children, and you have the rest of your life ahead of you. You will one day feel happiness again, you will find love, and your children will bring more love and happiness into your life throughout your life. Have faith, stay strong, and you will come out the other side one day.
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