Sariasong Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 I have a crush on my younger brother's best friend. Although he and my bro have been friends for years, its only been recently that i've really started to notice him. To add another layer, he has been living at my family's house, so he is always around. We talk a lot when we are around each other and it never seems uncomfortable or uneasy. Occasionally I catch him looking at me, but it's never awkward and he doesn't blush. He just smiles and turns back to whatever he was doing before. At first I thought he was just seeing if I was paying attention to him, but maybe I'm just reading too much into everything. Then, a couple of weeks ago we kissed. I initiated the kiss and he responded eagerly. I felt weird about it and I stopped before anything got too heated. I feel like even though we are not that different in age (2 years), I am somehow not giving him a choice in the matter? or somehow taking advantage? (we are both of age, its nothing that legally is wrong, i just don't feel entirely comfortable in the situation) The next day I tried talking to him about my weird feelings but he seemed anxious to avoid the topic. So I dropped it and now everything feels like it was before we kissed, almost like it didnt happen. Then today he started discussing with me all these different girls that he's been talking to and how he only likes one, but everyone just wants him. I couldnt tell if he was hinting at me (im not someone who can hide their feelings easily...lol) to keep a distance or if i was the girl he likes. I really couldnt tell. I know this is a multi-layered situation, but i just am not sure what the right thing to do is. I don't know if I should follow my feelings and let him know how I feel, including my weirdness about when we kissed? or hang back and let him make a few moves?
bluechocolate Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 Then today he started discussing with me all these different girls that he's been talking to and how he only likes one, but everyone just wants him. hmmm.. how old is he ? Anyway... I don't know if I should follow my feelings and let him know how I feel... Given that you were the one to initiate the kiss I think he has a pretty good idea how you feel. ...including my weirdness about when we kissed? It was probably a bit weird for him too. No need to drive the point home. I would say that as long as he is living in your family's house (presuming you live there too) you should keep things at an arms length.
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 stay away from him, you may like him but if he doesnt like you it might not work out. 2 years age difference isnt that bad.
dreamergrl Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 I wouldn't get involved while living together, even if the feeling is mutual. Living together is something that comes later on, not right when you're dating.
Mahatma Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 Sounds to me like you are actually the one being taken advantage of. He is clearly playing you. Let this fish be.
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