9Lives Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 The EX texts but I did not cave!!! yeaH!!!! party party party with me. Thanks to the LS family preparing me for this type of this behavior from a ex... I made it thru. Benefit I will tell you that It felt great for two reason 1..he has been thinking about me and that made me feel good. 2..I did not respond, realized it was crumbs, and I feel much better today because of the text. 3..Now I know I put something on his mind SINCE i did not respond...I love that. He know I really love him so I know he is wondering what happen This was the victory(i know guys, it is not all that)I needed to have some peace inside because in my mind I felt like he was out having a great time and not caring about me. Of course, it dont mean we are going to get together again. But whatever works to get rid of the daily agony of losing a man you love...I am game for. guys my house has been a mess, I did not want to wash dishes, I would come home and cry,I didnt want to come home, I did not like being by myself,I went to the grocery store, I had a mind that had him on it constantly, I even cried this morning so in the mornings I could not look at myself because I knew my face looked so pathetic!!! I feel my old self coming back. FANSTASTIC!!!!
bluewolf17 Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 What did the text say? Just curious. Good job! Doesn't it feel good! The best part is you know he is wondering why you didn't respond, and what you are doing. Let his imagination run wild! Very proud!
PinkRibbon Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 How long were you NC before the text? Yes what did it say??
Author 9Lives Posted May 2, 2009 Author Posted May 2, 2009 How long were you NC before the text? Yes what did it say?? He said good morning, hope everything is well. I was just saying hi, didnt want anything. I had you on my mind. It took 15 days of NC. I think he is beginning to wonder. I changed gyms so we cant run into each other like we use to every morning or every other morning. Something like that. I know he is kinda surprised that I did not respond to him. Normally, I would have caved by now. Plus he is sleeping with someone else right now too. I dont think it is a big deal. Just a a/ss when he needs to get some. I miss him tho but he did not really want anything and I am not going back to all that pain. I love him and wish we could work things out but I wont settle for any of his bull at this time. He is either going to treat me better or he is going to stay in the wind. Ive had enough. I am noticing that I am getting stronger and seeing more clearly about things I really did not like. When I think about him and I think on THOSE things, it makes me not want to call. I really miss him tho. No lie....but I cant stand to be mistreated. I hate it. So it is better to keep my distance
nolanola Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 9Lives, your post was inspiring to me. I, too, get these lame texts from my ex and they always leave me feeling mad, annoyed, and confused. Like you, I need to remind myself that I really want an awesome relationship with someone who wants to be with me. I don't want to settle for these little crumbs. I even bookmarked your post so that I could re-read it when I'm feeling low and wanting him to call or text me. Thanks for the encouragement... stay strong and keep posting on how you are doing.
JanaJ Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 Unless he knows you aren't going to respond. And because you didn't respond, he knows you are playing games with him. And people only play games when they want each other. So you not responding is showing him that you still have feelings for him. Or maybe not..
Author 9Lives Posted May 4, 2009 Author Posted May 4, 2009 Unless he knows you aren't going to respond. And because you didn't respond, he knows you are playing games with him. And people only play games when they want each other. So you not responding is showing him that you still have feelings for him. Or maybe not.. You are probably right. The reason I have not responded is because I still have feelings for him and I dont want to get my feelings hurt. If I was okay, I would have responded. Sometimes when you love someone and things have changed, it is easy for you to think that a text is the door opening to reconsilation. I dont think my ex wants to get back together right now or maybe ever. I really cant say at this time. What I think is that he is missing me some and could not get me off his mind. He is very cocky and arrogant and already has his d/k in another woman already. What I believe is going to happen is that as time goes on, he is going to start to wonder if he really made the right decision of letting me go. It make take some time. By then I may not be available. Yeah but I am praying and working on 9Lives. that is all I have left honestly. I cant go thru no more crap with him anymore. It is too much. I know he cares but I really dont know how much.
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