taking a break?

[broken heart 19]

I am 20 years old and me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year. I found out he was talking to his ex girlfriend and hiding it from me 2 weeks ago and got very angry and frustrated so I broke up with him. I couldn't stand it, so we got back together a week later. Things seemed very strange and different between us after that. He didn't call me as much or return my calls. He said he "forgot." A week later, he said we needed to take a break. He didn't really give a reason. He said he was confused and we needed some time away from each other. He said things were different between us and he wanted things to be how they used to be. He said he was getitng annoyed by me. He said taking a break might make us stronger or make us realize that we aren't meant to be. This guy made a huge committment to me. He said he wanted to get married and we had made plans to live together next year. I just don't understand how his feelings can change so fast. I don't know if this is for good or what. He didn't want me to take my things from his place, but I did. I don't know how long to wait around. I don't want to wait around. I feel like we should work things out. I think he may be interested in another girl. They were talking on facebook a lot starting about a month ago, and I know they have been partying together, but he said they were only friends. He did tell me that he isn't looking for anyone nor is there anyone else. Could this be the reason? I am trying my best not to contact him. It is just so hard. I gave in and texted him today. I didn't learn anything new. It doesn't really seem like he wants me back. What should I do to make him want me back? Should I see other people to make him jealous? I am just so confused. Is this just an easy and nice way for him to end our relationship?

[Juristhea]

I am 20 years old and me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year. I found out he was talking to his ex girlfriend and hiding it from me 2 weeks ago and got very angry and frustrated so I broke up with him. I couldn't stand it, so we got back together a week later. Things seemed very strange and different between us after that. He didn't call me as much or return my calls. He said he "forgot." A week later, he said we needed to take a break. He didn't really give a reason. He said he was confused and we needed some time away from each other. He said things were different between us and he wanted things to be how they used to be. He said he was getitng annoyed by me. He said taking a break might make us stronger or make us realize that we aren't meant to be. This guy made a huge committment to me. He said he wanted to get married and we had made plans to live together next year. I just don't understand how his feelings can change so fast. I don't know if this is for good or what. He didn't want me to take my things from his place, but I did. I don't know how long to wait around. I don't want to wait around. I feel like we should work things out. I think he may be interested in another girl. They were talking on facebook a lot starting about a month ago, and I know they have been partying together, but he said they were only friends. He did tell me that he isn't looking for anyone nor is there anyone else. Could this be the reason? I am trying my best not to contact him. It is just so hard. I gave in and texted him today. I didn't learn anything new. It doesn't really seem like he wants me back. What should I do to make him want me back? Should I see other people to make him jealous? I am just so confused. Is this just an easy and nice way for him to end our relationship?

The fact alone that he was hiding things from you just signifies that he will keep secrets from you and secrets are very deadly to a relationship.

 

This also signifies that you dont have a clear line of communication when it comes to talking and opening up.

 

The best thing for you right now is to move on and start the healing process while it's still early.

[LucreziaBorgia]

A break is a break up with an optional backup plan. Your best bet is to accept it as a breakup, and move on without him. Seriously - when it hits this point, there is nothing you can do to make someone want you back. Every single thing you say and do simply pushes them farther away.