melissa123 Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 Its my birthday today and the ex txt me saying 'happy birthday, have an awesome day' Do i reply???? His gf who used to be my good friend also did the same, do I txt back to her? Its so strange, when he was with me he treated me like crap, now after dumping me and dating my ex good friend he has been strangly nice to me! I have been NC the whole time but I dont want to look bitter, I want to look like im over him and I dont care that he ran of with my good friend and never even bothered to tell me . So do I reply? Thanks so much guys!
Citizen Erased Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 Happy birthday. Do not reply to either of them. Let him think what he wants, stick to NC. Be strong!
Island Girl Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 No - do not reply. Both of the people are toxic and contact from them should be discouraged. The easiest way to get them to stop is to ignore them. And if you are over someone, you don't contact because you don't care enough to put in the effort. So again, do not contact. And Happy Birthday!
Author melissa123 Posted April 30, 2009 Author Posted April 30, 2009 Thanks guys! Im jut worried I look bitter still when I ignore them! I dont understand why they are txtn me like this, they were horrible to me while I was dating my ex, but now that they have run off together they are being strangly nice. sigh
Miguelrg Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 one question.... Did u reply to everybody else who said happy birthday to you? No you didn't so why waste any more energy texting an ex who is a dick by the sounds of it and an old friend who doesn't know that ' you don't go with friends ex's' Both pathetic ignore the hell out of them!! Happy birthday, it was my birthday 3 days ago, i got no text but yes i would of ignored the she devil!
Author melissa123 Posted April 30, 2009 Author Posted April 30, 2009 actually I did reply to everyone else lol I just dont want things to be horrible and tense between us as I have to see him a bit this year But I guess if he felt the same way he wouldnt have run of with my bestfriend ...
LeighG Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 Mel, In my view, to reply would be to invite a reply in return. So use that piece of advice any way you wish. I have a general observation on such things however. To a guy who has designs on you, any contact is "good contact", no matter how fleeting or benign. I guess the question is whether or not you want him to have any "good contact"?
BCCA Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 I have a general observation on such things however. To a guy who has designs on you, any contact is "good contact", no matter how fleeting or benign. Well, in this situation he doesnt care about it being good/bad contact, its all about validation. Theyre both just trying the 'we're cool...right?' method, and what better way than texting you on your birthday. Afterall, how mad can you be that he said happy birthday? Ignore ignore ignore. Trust me, it doesnt come off as bitter, it comes off as strong. It comes off as you dont care what either of them say, and as you said, the dude treated you like crap - let him stick his happy b-day where the sun dont shine.
Miguelrg Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 Your mad lol Please though, do not reply i can't see how it would benefit you? I wouldn't expect to a reply to birthday messages i sent even to friends, then again i'm too popular to reply to all just kidding! He treated you like crap, he does not deserve a reply Have a wonderful day x
Miguelrg Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 I just realised some of my message made no sense I just meant i wouldn't expect replies from friends when i send birthday messages I'm tired haha
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