Amber4eva Posted April 29, 2009 Posted April 29, 2009 I have been seeing my girl for about two months now, everything was amazing at first....lately, I have sensed that something had changed...she told me that she is use to a lot of space and that she feels smothered. I told her that I will do anything she wants to fix it, give her as much space as she needs that I just don't want to lose her. It was getting to the point that she would rarely respond to my emails, texts and rarely would answer my calls. We agreed to meet in a day or two to talk about it face to face...she texted me and said she wants to start from scratch JUST dating and that I move too fast for her. I don't want to lose her, what should I say to her when we meet and what should I do. I believe her that she wants to start fresh....I just need help please!
Mahatma Posted April 29, 2009 Posted April 29, 2009 Well ... this girl, who I will call "Amber," needs what she asked... space. Sounds like you just need to back off. This relationship may be lost now because you clearly want something more fast paced, and she wants something slower. Maybe it is time to just find someone more like you? Or at least just take a break from each other.
Author Amber4eva Posted April 29, 2009 Author Posted April 29, 2009 What should I say to her when we meet? I am willing to give her space and take things as slow as she needs...one of the main problems is that she has to take chemo treatments and may never be able to have kids...she tells me that I have no clue about her medical condition and I told her I won't run when times get hard but I think that is also one of the problems, I just want to be there for her through good and bad, just don't know how.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 29, 2009 Posted April 29, 2009 What should I say to her when we meet? I am willing to give her space and take things as slow as she needs...one of the main problems is that she has to take chemo treatments and may never be able to have kids...she tells me that I have no clue about her medical condition and I told her I won't run when times get hard but I think that is also one of the problems, I just want to be there for her through good and bad, just don't know how. You're saying one thing, yet you're thinking of the other. You know you want to be with her, but from your tone, all I can tell is that you're trying desperately to keep her. Respect her wishes. Otherwise you'll just push her further away.
Mahatma Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 I just want to be there for her through good and bad, just don't know how. I think you are being overly dramatic. You are speaking as if you are this woman's husband or something. You have been dating her for 2 months. If she wants space, you give it. You may want to give a helping hand emotionally to this girl, but maybe she is uninterested.
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