lostandlonely2 Posted April 29, 2009 Posted April 29, 2009 I met a woman on a train recently and asked her for her number to ask her out for a drink sometime... she seemed very interested and I thought all was going to go well until I called her and she said that she had a friend who wanted to come with her... now, does this mean some kinky 3some sex on the first date, or is it some way of her having an excuse not to do anything (not that I expect anything to happen) on the date? I am a bit confused because I have never had a 'date' invite a friend with her... Thanks, D
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 29, 2009 Posted April 29, 2009 I'm going to go with "no" on the kinky. But I'm unsure of exactly what she's doing. Since it's the first date, it's not like she owes you something. So if she was completely uninterested, I don't understand why she wouldn't have just said she didn't want to go. MAYBE...and that's a huge maybe...because you guys met on a train her friend has convinced her you could be a serial killer and she (the friend) wants to come screen you and keep her friend safe before she (the girl you want to date) goes one-on-one with you. If all is well, maybe her friend will duck out. Who knows these days? It's only a possibility and I could be totally wrong. But it was the only option that really made sense in my mind.
bluechocolate Posted April 29, 2009 Posted April 29, 2009 I'd say she is just playing it safe. Though why she just didn't put a time limit on the date & insist on a very public space I don't know.
Author lostandlonely2 Posted April 29, 2009 Author Posted April 29, 2009 oddly enough, we were going to meet at the train station where we first met...
Chicago_Guy Posted April 29, 2009 Posted April 29, 2009 It is weird. Maybe she liked you at first and then later changed her mind.
paddington bear Posted April 29, 2009 Posted April 29, 2009 It seems obvious to me, she met a complete stranger on a train, you don't say how long you talked to her. If it was me, I would, for safety reasons bring someone else along with me too for the next meeting and then all going well would meet you on your own for a second date.
Author lostandlonely2 Posted April 29, 2009 Author Posted April 29, 2009 we talked for about 30 minutes... I'm just surprised at the sudden change from being keen to go out for a drink (her words) to suddenly asking a friend along...
Admiral Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 It means she is not comfortable being alone with you, and no attraction. You didn't build her attraction up enough before the date.
Sephirothh Posted May 2, 2009 Posted May 2, 2009 she's playing it safe, why is she is playing it safe? she probably doesn't need to play it safe, when 2 people meet and want to get to know each other, IT SHOULD BE JUST THOSE 2 THAT GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER she has fail and waste of time written all over it and probably has alot of trust issues or is afraid of men....don't stay with this one
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