Heidi2 Posted October 20, 2003 Posted October 20, 2003 ok.. here's my latest 411 story of recent days.. This past weekend.. while @ work.. I went along with my usual schedule/tasks of things to do, etc. However, each of the 3 days/nights which I was their.. something good sort of occured.. I was 'picked' up per se by 3 different individuals' whom left me with their phone #s. Ok.. I will admit that I gave one of them mine as well. B/c in that hidden taste of aww he is sort of cute!! Anyways, here's my somewhat delimma. when one of these individuals' had said that they'd call me, I was like.. umm, ok.. B/c in my past circumstances, when someone says just those words, they usually don't follow through. Well, just last night, this person does in fact call me. But, at first I don't pick up, b/c his # w/n already preprogrammed into my address book; which means that a # will only read, & not the # & name. So, anyways, I let it ring. A few minutes later, he calls again. The 3rd time. w/i that hour, he decides to FINALLY leave a msg. Nervous?? perhaps. But, of the 4 times to which he tried calling, me, I had let my phone ring... and let it read 'missed call.' Am I in fact nervous, too of the unknowns.. or is it that I have some type of instinct that this all is like a game!!! And, he's like one of those playas.. I guess you can say that I have this sort of problem of TRUSTING guys.. b/c this most recent individual whom I was seeing was one which I was able to trust @ first, but then things totally altered paths. Anyways.. the voice msg. which I was left.. said that he'll try calling me, tomorrow.. which is now equal to later on this evening. And, I'm not too sure if I should pick up. B/c I know if I do/not he'll probably show up @ my store.. wanting to talk to me.. Just in a somewhat confused state of mind right now.
PurpleAngel Posted October 20, 2003 Posted October 20, 2003 Not sure why you are confused and why after all those times you would not pick up the phone??? Its ok that you let him sweet it out a little, its always good to do that.. game playing is ok in moderation thought! I think its gone a little too far… letting him sweet is one thing but the trusting thing has got nothing to do with it. You should treat everyone as an individual and get to know them very well before getting too serious, they will soon show their spots if they are not trust worthy. Give the man a go… if you are not interested then don’t waist his time. Why do you think that when an individual says he’ll call he doesn’t??? SO what, its happened a few times, its happened to all of us…. Very negative thought pattern. You should stop making comparisons… you’ll become too gadded and then wont see the genuine people for what they are worth and instead you’ll keep attracting losers. Be a little more positive and let someone get to know you and vis versa. When he calls next PICK UP!
Author Heidi2 Posted October 23, 2003 Author Posted October 23, 2003 Hey, Purple Angel Thanks for your views on my recent thread.... I guess you can say that I have had other more 'important' things to concentrate on; besides what was actually starting to become annoying... Because when this person called me the first couple of times.. I had been in another room.. unable to answer, etc. being that I had my phone on, but w/o sound mode. However, when I actually tried calling him back, I had found out that the #s, (YES #s) he was dialing from.. were in fact either pay phones... how ridiculous, or ones of his friends.. SO, whatever I guess you could say.. And, YES the confidence issue is a definate thing I need to in fact work on.... regarding the dating scenerio as well as every day life affairs.. Thanks again, and have a gr8 day!!!!
Frodo Posted October 25, 2003 Posted October 25, 2003 Why are you doing these things? If someone calls you, pick up the phone. If you don't like them, don't give them your number. It's actually easier to be straightforward. And I disagree with PurpleAngel's advice that "game playing is okay in moderation". Role-playing is fine, because you and the other person decide what you're going to do. But secret tests and tactics don't do you or the other person any good. If the other person doesn't know the rules of your game, they may 'lose' when in fact you had a winner. Any man with healthy self-esteem won't put up with being jacked around. He'll move on to woman who really want to have relationships. And you'll end up with the more desperate guys who are willing to be strung along. You lose in that scenario. So call him and talk to him. He's already taken on the risk by expressing interest. All you have to do is respond or be honest about the fact that you're not ready and take care of other areas of life.
Major684 Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 Well this is an outlook comming from the other end of the spectrum. A very pretty shy girl gave me her number last week at a bar. I thought we had a good time and all and was expecting at least a good friend out of the whole thing, I mean we talked for about 3 hours at the bar. WEll anyways I called her 2 days later to see if she wanted to grab some dinner around 11 becuase I had the day off. WEll i called again later that night no answer again. It's confusing that girls just dont pick up cuase their nervous or scared.... I mean if your gonna give your number to a guy at least pick up the phone and let him know whats going on so he's not lost in whats going on. I don't know what you have to be scared about... a good time maybe? In my case she might be scared becuase i'm in the navy but still thats not a good enough reason. My advice being in that guys shoes your dealing with now is just answer the phone or make time to call him back so you can let him know whats going on, i'm sure he'll understand Hope you take this for what it's worth
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