Vodka Posted April 29, 2009 Posted April 29, 2009 How did you MM act when you would talk about other guys around them? Would they get jealous and want to keep you away from other men, or did they understand that you were not theirs and keep their mouth shut? Did they realize that at any moment you could meet someone else and drop them and keep you close, or did they not care or act like they didnt care? Just curious?
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 29, 2009 Posted April 29, 2009 MM are just like any other guy really. They generally get jealous, pout, get angry etc. Only they have an added level of frustration from knowing that they can't really act on it like a single guy can (or at least not quite to that extent). If they don't react at all and are genuinely indifferent, then its a pretty safe bet that he has no interest in the OW outside of FWB.
OWoman Posted April 29, 2009 Posted April 29, 2009 How did you MM act when you would talk about other guys around them? Would they get jealous and want to keep you away from other men, or did they understand that you were not theirs and keep their mouth shut? Did they realize that at any moment you could meet someone else and drop them and keep you close, or did they not care or act like they didnt care? Just curious? I guess that depends on the MM and the situation. I always made it clear upfront to potential MMs that they would be one of several, that they should not expect any kind of sexual exclusivity from me just as I knew they would not be delivering any to me (by virtue of being M). It was part of my terms of agreement - they accepted it, or no deal. None of them refused, though I don't doubt that at least some would have preferred to have been Mr Only. But they were all intelligent guys, rational and sensible, and knew that wanting such structural inequality would be counter-productive to a satisfying relationship. Some did get clingy and want more; some dumped Ws and expected me to dump my other MMs reciprocally; some became philosophical about it - but those were the terms.
2sure Posted April 29, 2009 Posted April 29, 2009 Like a date with any man - no guy wants to hear about other guys while you are with him, so why would you. No offer of exclusiveness should be made or assumed - but your life outside of the affair is yours and does not include him . He has a full life when he gets out of your bed , why shouldnt you? If you talk about other men to MM, and he ends up feeling clingy or jealous - you have drama with no benefit. Trying to make him jealous would be so needy on part of OW. Most MM want an extra on the side thing that is all about them. Bringing up other guys, whether they exist or not, is going to drive them to keep shopping elsewhere.
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