Rhythm28 Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 So my ex of 2 years ago finds me on Facebook. She says, "I know you hate me but I hope there are no hard feelings." She dumped me 2 years ago. I responded with, "No I don't hate you. Hope you're doing well. Bye." That was 2 weeks ago. Yesterday she texts me, and to make a long story short, it got real ugly, real fast. Bottom line. She asked a mutual friend how "psycho boy" was doing. It got back to me but I just laughed it off. Then she hunts me down on Facebook??? When I asked her why she would contact, in her words, someone who needed a psychiatric evaluation, she said she figured enough time had passed for my "craziness" to go away. Once crazy, always crazy. Go figure. I don't have a picture on Facebook, just an avatar but she claimed she didn't know my last name and found my name on someone's friends list. And her computer magically sent me a message on it's own. Ohhhhhhhh kay. What the hell was she thinking? If you're a woman and you're crazy, I would like to hear from you.
Blah Toolz Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 She sounds very immature and very disrespectful towards you. You'd be doing yourself a favor by ignoring her completely next time and for good.
sotired Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 LOL! I don't consider myself crazy. But she has some major issues. Block her and forget about her.
PinkRibbon Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 I am crazy. I think she is just playing cute. Thinking she is just sweet and funny. Kinda like twirling her hair in front of you. Too much tee hee hee's to be an adult conversation. Trying to pull you into a conversation that means trying to garner compliments. Especially the I hope you don't hate me comment. A backwards compliment. Pass her by. You don't need an ex of 2 years ago bothering you. She is the one who is crazy if she has a magic keyboard. :laugh:
Chinook Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Magic keyboard huh...?! Where can I get one of those...? Can you ask her for me...? (j/k!)
CaliGuy Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Is there a reason why she called you a pyscho ex? (Be honest). What happened between the text messages that it got so ugly, so fast? Details please. Thanks.
sotired Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Is there a reason why she called you a pyscho ex? (Be honest). Could be projection...I mean...If she seriously thought he was unbalanced...why contact him to stir up the crazy??
CaliGuy Posted April 29, 2009 Posted April 29, 2009 Could be projection...I mean...If she seriously thought he was unbalanced...why contact him to stir up the crazy?? True but I am curious what happened with the text messages to go south so fast. Something isn't adding up. Either he is indeed psycho or she is
Juristhea Posted April 29, 2009 Posted April 29, 2009 So my ex of 2 years ago finds me on Facebook. She says, "I know you hate me but I hope there are no hard feelings." She dumped me 2 years ago. I responded with, "No I don't hate you. Hope you're doing well. Bye." That was 2 weeks ago. Yesterday she texts me, and to make a long story short, it got real ugly, real fast. Bottom line. She asked a mutual friend how "psycho boy" was doing. It got back to me but I just laughed it off. Then she hunts me down on Facebook??? When I asked her why she would contact, in her words, someone who needed a psychiatric evaluation, she said she figured enough time had passed for my "craziness" to go away. Once crazy, always crazy. Go figure. I don't have a picture on Facebook, just an avatar but she claimed she didn't know my last name and found my name on someone's friends list. And her computer magically sent me a message on it's own. Ohhhhhhhh kay. What the hell was she thinking? If you're a woman and you're crazy, I would like to hear from you. Clearly you have a messed up psycho ex who's projecting her craziness unto you. I mean I think she's the one who's gone cuckoo...
Author Rhythm28 Posted April 29, 2009 Author Posted April 29, 2009 Ah OK. Had to go back and look at the phone. Text messages were still there. I have to go back first. We dated seriously 4 years ago. But she got cold feet and backed out. OK. We each went our own way. Ran into each other at a wedding 2 years later. She texts me a few weeks later and tells me that I should not pursue anything further with a woman I just started seeing because this new woman has a checkered past. I quit seeing the new girl (not because of what this woman said) Now here's where I f'd up. She (text girl) invited me out to her place. She sends me sexually suggestive texts the night before. I didn't respond. I get there. We have a nice dinner. She has some vino and starts getting frisky. At that point, I had two choices. Bang her OR have a talk with her about where this was all gonna go. I didn't wanna get back on the rollercoaster so I told her right then and there if she wanted to pursue a serious relationship with me then now's the time to put up or shut up. She started laughing hysterically about how she thought that I thought that she wanted me. Ohhhhhhhh kay. So why call me and invite me out here. Why send those freaky text messages? I figured I called her out, put the ball in her court, and made her nervous. She panicked and made ME to be the one who had made this tryst up in my mind. Here's where the psycho part comes in to play. I sent her flowers the next day believing that I called her out on her bull**** and that maybe she thought about what happened the night before and would be willing to talk. My emotions got the best of me. Was thinking about 2 years prior to that. That was 2 years ago. Now she finds me on Facebook. Saying she hoped there was no hard feelings between us and I said no hard feelings here. Hope you're doing better. Bye. Then the texting starts. She says I'm a bad person because I let these guys I know use my place to bang chicks other than their girlfriends. I say it's none of her business. So, like a dumbass, I decide to engage with her when I fired back with I heard what she called me a psycho (flowers). She admitted to it then and then we both stopped sending messages. So if she thought I was psycho when I sent her those flowers, why hunt me down on Facebook? She claimed that she figured enough time had passed (for my craziness to go away) Look, I'm not gonna sit here and tell you I'm totally innocent in all this. Yes I went to see her after we broke up 2 years ago and yes I responded to her message in Facebook (probably not the way she wanted me to). I didn't go looking for a relationship with her and even turned down sex with her. I now know to block her completely.
CaliGuy Posted April 29, 2009 Posted April 29, 2009 Ah OK. Had to go back and look at the phone. Text messages were still there. I have to go back first. We dated seriously 4 years ago. But she got cold feet and backed out. OK. We each went our own way. Ran into each other at a wedding 2 years later. She texts me a few weeks later and tells me that I should not pursue anything further with a woman I just started seeing because this new woman has a checkered past. I quit seeing the new girl (not because of what this woman said) Now here's where I f'd up. She (text girl) invited me out to her place. She sends me sexually suggestive texts the night before. I didn't respond. I get there. We have a nice dinner. She has some vino and starts getting frisky. At that point, I had two choices. Bang her OR have a talk with her about where this was all gonna go. I didn't wanna get back on the rollercoaster so I told her right then and there if she wanted to pursue a serious relationship with me then now's the time to put up or shut up. She started laughing hysterically about how she thought that I thought that she wanted me. Ohhhhhhhh kay. So why call me and invite me out here. Why send those freaky text messages? I figured I called her out, put the ball in her court, and made her nervous. She panicked and made ME to be the one who had made this tryst up in my mind. Here's where the psycho part comes in to play. I sent her flowers the next day believing that I called her out on her bull**** and that maybe she thought about what happened the night before and would be willing to talk. My emotions got the best of me. Was thinking about 2 years prior to that. That was 2 years ago. Now she finds me on Facebook. Saying she hoped there was no hard feelings between us and I said no hard feelings here. Hope you're doing better. Bye. Then the texting starts. She says I'm a bad person because I let these guys I know use my place to bang chicks other than their girlfriends. I say it's none of her business. So, like a dumbass, I decide to engage with her when I fired back with I heard what she called me a psycho (flowers). She admitted to it then and then we both stopped sending messages. So if she thought I was psycho when I sent her those flowers, why hunt me down on Facebook? She claimed that she figured enough time had passed (for my craziness to go away) Look, I'm not gonna sit here and tell you I'm totally innocent in all this. Yes I went to see her after we broke up 2 years ago and yes I responded to her message in Facebook (probably not the way she wanted me to). I didn't go looking for a relationship with her and even turned down sex with her. I now know to block her completely. Ok so she only contacted you that one night to get a quick and easy lay. When you put your foot down to say "No milk without buying the cow" she freaked out and tried to save face. Dude, IMHO, the only reason she has contacted you over the past several years is a FWB situation. She isn't mentally capable of having a healthy relationship and for some reason feels she needs to stick her nose in your personal relationships (romantic and freindship). Can I ask a question here? Why on earth would you even want to be with this woman? IMHO you should be happy that you are rid of her...
Author Rhythm28 Posted April 29, 2009 Author Posted April 29, 2009 You're right. That's the same conclusion I came up with. It's one failed relationship after another with her. I gave it a go the first time 4 years knowing she had a rocky past when it came to relationships. I figured maybe things would be different with me. Wrong. I also believe she's feeling lonely now. Probably why she went around looking to see if I would take the bait again. I keep thinking maybe, just maybe, she pulled her head out her ass and has finally grown up. Wrong again. If anything, she gets worse as time progresses. I don't think she's looking for FWB. I even considered it but I'm trying find something more than that and going back with her in any capacity would just sidetrack me. Let's put it this way. Her clock is ticking. I even heard she's resorted to placing ads on Craigslist. After the text messages the other night, I knew I wasn't dealing with a mentally stable woman. No more.
BCCA Posted April 29, 2009 Posted April 29, 2009 You know whats funny? Most of the time, we all think that its WHAT you respond with, but more often than not, chicks like this just want to know that they can still get a response of any kind. Even if all you say is 'please go away', thats more than enough. And I also think that youre this girl's 'blame boy', everything thats wrong with her - she projects as being wrong with you. Hence the 'psycho boy' comment (which was just a way to try and get a response out of you, I hope you realize that). This girl has problems, and will continue to do so indefinitely, until she can take some responsibility and be honest with HERSELF. Although, life is much easier when youre always a victim of circumstance, and everyone ELSE is crazy...
Juristhea Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 You're right. That's the same conclusion I came up with. It's one failed relationship after another with her. I gave it a go the first time 4 years knowing she had a rocky past when it came to relationships. I figured maybe things would be different with me. Wrong. I also believe she's feeling lonely now. Probably why she went around looking to see if I would take the bait again. I keep thinking maybe, just maybe, she pulled her head out her ass and has finally grown up. Wrong again. If anything, she gets worse as time progresses. I don't think she's looking for FWB. I even considered it but I'm trying find something more than that and going back with her in any capacity would just sidetrack me. Let's put it this way. Her clock is ticking. I even heard she's resorted to placing ads on Craigslist. After the text messages the other night, I knew I wasn't dealing with a mentally stable woman. No more. Methinks she is still craving for your attention hence the Psycho bit.
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