serial muse Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Umm... I didn't. You posted it in this thread. You've had long term prior relationships (plural, at least two) with Jewish men, and your current BF is also a Jew. One, two, three. Jeez. Please post where I said they all proposed. Actually, never mind. Please don't bother. If you're honest you'll at least go back and look and that'll be the end of that. Regardless, this is absolutely ridiculous and a total threadjack. My private life is not the issue here. I'm sorry, paper.
Star Gazer Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Please post where I said they all proposed. Umm.... I didn't say they did??? Seriously, where are you getting all this nonsense? I'm reading THIS thread. What are you reading?
Kamille Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 xpaperxcutx, you know, there's no reason to decide now wether or not you want to get involved. the reason i freak out early on in relationships is because relationships are the one area in my life where I revert to being a 14 year old insecure girl. They make me feel slightly like I have to perform a condensed version of myself, like at any moment the guy will realize who I really am and drop me. I'm so afraid of being hurt that I create drama, instead of trusting myself that I won't make the wrong decisions. (Namely, because I did get hurt in the past). This is slowly changing and I'm glad for it. Like I said, I'm enjoying getting to know this guy a lot more now that I've accepted I don't want to force an immediate outcome. Bottomline is, in two weeks or two years, you might the one who decides you aren't interested in artists guy. Truth is? Right now, you are. Go with that and stop fretting.
serial muse Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Umm.... I didn't say they did??? Seriously, where are you getting all this nonsense? I'm reading THIS thread. What are you reading? Sigh. I'm waiting for SM to admit that her experience in having three Jewish boyfriends want to marry her - while inspiring - is certainly out of the ordinary. Sorry again, paper. I think I have to vacate this thread, for its own good, or the TJ won't end. If you want to talk, though, PM me.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted April 28, 2009 Author Posted April 28, 2009 Sorry again, paper. I think I have to vacate this thread, for its own good, or the TJ won't end. If you want to talk, though, PM me. Actually SM I feel like I should be the one apologizing. I didn't mean to bring up a subject that put you and SG in such an embroiled state. But I thank you again for your advice.
Star Gazer Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Actually SM I feel like I should be the one apologizing. I didn't mean to bring up a subject that put you and SG in such an embroiled state. But I thank you again for your advice. I'm far from embroiled. I'm actually amused by the anger I'm encountering. Just keep your eyes and ears open, Paper.
Jaytb Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Just keep your eyes and ears open, Paper. Clearly she does have her eyes and ears open. Here's my opinion OP: you're not going to know from how much kosher he eats. The only way you'll know is by asking him. You know what they say about assumptions. Now asking him right away may not be a good idea because it will look like you're rushing things. But maybe in a few weeks you should ask him, that way you'll know for sure whether things will continue long term, or if it's only short term then you won't be wasting your time, unless you're ok with short term.
BubblyPopcorn Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 My friend's brother who is non-Jewish, just got engaged to a Jewish woman and he is converting. I have a male friend who was dating a Jewish woman and he was going to convert too but he eventually broke it off with her before converting. It really depends on how strict he is with his religion and what he/you are looking for at this point in time. Mazel tov!
carhill Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Well, OP, given the gyrations of the thread, it appears your head is doing fine. Glad to see that Personally, at this point, I'd not concern myself with religious symmetry and custom, rather to enjoy this young artist and to endeavor to hold onto the handrail when descending the stairs.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted April 29, 2009 Author Posted April 29, 2009 xpaperxcutx, you know, there's no reason to decide now wether or not you want to get involved. the reason i freak out early on in relationships is because relationships are the one area in my life where I revert to being a 14 year old insecure girl. They make me feel slightly like I have to perform a condensed version of myself, like at any moment the guy will realize who I really am and drop me. I'm so afraid of being hurt that I create drama, instead of trusting myself that I won't make the wrong decisions. (Namely, because I did get hurt in the past). This is slowly changing and I'm glad for it. Like I said, I'm enjoying getting to know this guy a lot more now that I've accepted I don't want to force an immediate outcome. Bottomline is, in two weeks or two years, you might the one who decides you aren't interested in artists guy. Truth is? Right now, you are. Go with that and stop fretting. You're right K. I have the same tendencies as you had when I date someone. I'm also learning to control most of my impulses and not try to rush through anything. Clearly she does have her eyes and ears open. Here's my opinion OP: you're not going to know from how much kosher he eats. The only way you'll know is by asking him. You know what they say about assumptions. Now asking him right away may not be a good idea because it will look like you're rushing things. But maybe in a few weeks you should ask him, that way you'll know for sure whether things will continue long term, or if it's only short term then you won't be wasting your time, unless you're ok with short term. Umm... I don't know if I'll be okay with short term, but then I can't force anyone to be with me. So if he decides to tell me one day, I think we'll just be friends, I'll try not to be so devastated. I'll just accept his decision and date other people. Well, OP, given the gyrations of the thread, it appears your head is doing fine. Glad to see that Personally, at this point, I'd not concern myself with religious symmetry and custom, rather to enjoy this young artist and to endeavor to hold onto the handrail when descending the stairs. Haha Thanks Carhill, at least you think I'm sane.
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