mendsley Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Well I was talking to a friend today who is also friends with my wife. We were talking about my son and two stepsons and I picked up on something she said and was not sure how to ask my wife about it. My friend and I were talking about health insurance and she said my wife mentioned that if we get a divorce she does not know what she will do about insurance for the step kids, and she really does not feel like filling out a bunch of paper work for medicare. It makes me mad to think that that is, possibly the only reason she is hanging around and not divorcing me. I thought that maybe by chance that maybe it was because she really was not sure what she wanted to do. Now after hearing that it makes me think that she is only doing it for the healt insurance. I want to call and give her a piece of mind, but that is the old me and I thought I would see what you all have to say before I do anything? Am I thinking into this way too much? I mean it has been almost nine months and we are exactly in the same place as we were when this went down?
thelostsoul89 Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 I really think you should talk to your wife about this, maybe your freind misheard her? If it is true, wouldnt you like to know? If this is true then she is wasting your time. You only have one life, so you should enjoy it and be with someone who cares for you.
hopesndreams Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 and she really does not feel like filling out a bunch of paper work for medicare. Tough! Get her to fill out all the paperwork. I've been reading through your threads and you have been through so much for so long. You continuing to pay the health insurance is not going to bring her back to you, she's taking everything she can from you by dragging her feet. She's a taker, not a giver. I wonder what other stuff she's yacking about with her friends and whatever else you will be hearing from..her friends, which are also your friends.
delajoonal Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 mendsley... i would def ask her. if you are separated in hopes of reconciling, than that is completely unfair to you... most people will get a leg sep instead of straight up D, ONLY for the medical insurance, BUT that is usually agreed upon by BOTH parties... my situation is that exacly, my stbx actually came up with the idea, of legal separation, so that i could keep his medical insurance, until i get on my own, etc....(the least he could do, he was the cheater) anyway, ya, you should def sit down with W and communicate and find out exactly what her intentions are...the hard part is, the kids, no one wants children to be without insurance, BUT you also don't want to be USED and made a fool of either, right? good luck;)
Author mendsley Posted April 28, 2009 Author Posted April 28, 2009 Well, I called her. There was no anger, drilling, or anything that was not approptiate. After talking with her I realized that all I am doing is trying to walk a dead dog around the block. So we finally decided to get a divorce. She told me she would rather be single and does not want to go back to the married life. So I am giving her what she wants, and I guess it will be good for me too. We talked about what she wants and she said ONLY child support. I did not ask twice and that is all she is going to get. What is the best and cheapest way to do this? I heard about legal zoom.com, but I don't know, thanks.
delajoonal Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 there are a million attorneys you can find online and paralegals, that do just that ALL day, simple divorces, no property isssues, etc....it is about 500 dollars and you pretty much do the paper work, both of you sign the papers, bring them to the attorney or PL and they help you file in court etc... so you can do the child support by what your state says is fair for the amount of time married, and income, etc...or also, get advice online or hire one the above.. there are alot of cheaper ways to get a divorce now, if it is just straight up D and CS... years back, it costs everyone thousands...the laws have made it pretty simple for the simpler cases these days. sorry this did not end for you the way you had hoped..really:o but, it means something brighter in your future...
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