kizik Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 I'm a guy, my roomie is a chick, and she's got a d*ckhead, douchebag BF who comes over and stays the night at least three times a week. He's loud, annoying, arrogant and always argues w/ her, which I have to hear through the walls. I'm not moving out, so please don't suggest that. I just want to know, how the hell can I deal with the annoyance and feeling confined to my room when they're there? What can I do to improve my situation? Thanks.
Star Gazer Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Easy: Take up more space. Occupy the living room, kitchen, other common areas. Indirectly force them to go hide in HER room.
Author kizik Posted April 28, 2009 Author Posted April 28, 2009 That makes sense, but often times they're cooking dinner in the kitchen, and I don't want to be there, and it makes no sense to be there.
mark982 Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 since he's staying 3 nights a week,that wasn't part of the deal,she's going to have to pay more to cover his added expense.start making their lives harder.
Enema Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 If they're not paying extra, he can't stay. Enforce it. Also, decide that pants are too confining to wear around the apartment.
LikeCharlotte Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 Kiz- Talk to her about it. Tell her that the arguing bothers you. Tell her that it's unfair that you have to live with a couple most of the week. Respect that she is her own person and has every right to live how she wants but ask for some respect. The direct approach works sometimes.
Author kizik Posted April 30, 2009 Author Posted April 30, 2009 Thanks for the replies, all. LC, I'll be moving in with you this weekend. I will try to stop wearing pants. I will get a loud girlfriend. I will expect her to pay more of the bills. But to complicate matters, she just went through a cancer scare, and so his presence in this tough time is something I can't hardly argue.
LikeCharlotte Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 LC, I'll be moving in with you this weekend. I will try to stop wearing pants. These two things are unrelated but I like that they are posted together . I promise not to have a PT live-in obnoxious BF if you promise to bring good movies and music. As for her scare, its awful but you aren't saying that he should leave. You are asking her to be a little more respectful. That's reasonable by any standards.
Author kizik Posted April 30, 2009 Author Posted April 30, 2009 These two things are unrelated but I like that they are posted together . I promise not to have a PT live-in obnoxious BF if you promise to bring good movies and music. As for her scare, its awful but you aren't saying that he should leave. You are asking her to be a little more respectful. That's reasonable by any standards. Thank you for manipulating my comments; it's funnier that way. Asking me to bring good music and movies is like requesting that I masturbate. Not a problem. You know, I've had numerous confrontations with her in which I ask her to do exactly that - be more respectful - and it always ends up with this douchebag boyfriend hanging around my apartment. Now that she's sick, it's really, really hard to say anything. Luckily I'm a cool + busy dude who's out doing fun sh*t all the time, but it's clear this roommate-ship is not going to work out long-term.
Author kizik Posted May 5, 2009 Author Posted May 5, 2009 Update: she asked me to move out. I was pissed off at first, but today I went out and found a great one-bedroom in a cool 'hood. I don't believe in fate, but I do believe in making the best of the hand people sometimes deal you.
Author kizik Posted May 7, 2009 Author Posted May 7, 2009 Um.................................................... WHAT? THE HELL ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?
GorillaTheater Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 I suspect it has something to do with meth, but I'm not sure. Sounds like things worked out for the best. Was her bf cool with you two living together? Just nosiness on my part.
Author kizik Posted May 7, 2009 Author Posted May 7, 2009 Heya, yeah, he was cool with it, but it didn't work out in the end. As you say, it was definitely for the best for her to "kick me out." Check this out - I've already found a new apt., and she's scrambling around looking for a roomie, while expressing regret to me over her hasty eviction!
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