DeSantos Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Ok, heres the situation, i've met this girl at a careers fair I was helping at and i think i've fallen for her, but I don't know if I'm wasting my time and should move on, see the timeline below (only way I could describe this) and judge for yourselves, some female input would be good too. Oct 2008 I see Yasmin waiting to ask some questions at my company's stand and smile at her and ask her to come over. We talk and keep smiling and joking and she asks for my email so I can help her with her application. We part with a smile and she emails me a few days later thanking me for speaking with her and that she hopes to speak soon. Nov 2008 She goes of volunteering in South Africa but she still emails me telling me how she's getting on there and that we should meet up when i'm next in London and when she gets back. Jan 2009 She sends me an email telling me she's returned and from SA and that it would be good to see me in London. Feb 2009 We meet in London and get on really well. Conversation really easy, friendly and funny and we talk about each others cultures and she wants to take me to a restuarant from her culture. She also says she can't find work at the moment and she's only doing a part time bar job that she does on the weekend evenings. We part and agree to meet again. I sent her a text a few hours after saying I really enjoyed the afternoon and look forward to seeing her again, she sends the same back. March 2009 I text her asking to meet up again but she does not respond, after a day I send her another text and she replies "sorry, i was meant to get back to you, can we do next week". So I agree and then when next week comes she can't make it. She says its due to her bar job, which is understandable to me. She then says she will check her rota at work and let me know about it asap. I never got a reply from her so I just left it at that. April 2009 I decide to give her a text, as I'm curious and she's been on my mind. She says she's fine but still not got a job and says "You need to come by, when are you next in London". So I say I can make Saturday and she says that should be fine. I ring her before I head for london on saturday and she says that she has the evening off work and we should meet in the evening. On my way down she texts saying she can't make it she has been called into work and can we do the following day if i'm still around. I say yes but also that she's got a lot on her plate so we'll leave it till next week as she does not know what time we would be able to meet up on the Sunday. I said that I don't mean to be 'pushy' with her by asking her to confirm a time and she replies that i'm not being and she knows its been a nightmare trying to organise something with her. So next week comes and she can't make it as she's moving apartment with her sister and is busy with that, but she says the following week which is a bank holiday would be perfect. So I agree and suggest we get out of the city into the country for the day to take her mind off work issues. She replies saying that that would be a really good idea and that I'm very thoughtful. Yesterday I asked which day of the weekend she was thinking about regarding our day trip out and she has not replied yet. Her text replies are not one worded and when I've spoken to her over the phone she seems really cheerful and does not give the impression she does not want to talk. But i'm stuck here... I really like her and I would normally just not worry if a girl has not replied to a text and move on. But I think theres certain signals thats shes giving to make me keep interested! So do I text asking if she received my text ? Or do I just let it go and move on... N
bluechocolate Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 She has a part time job in a bar & is that difficult to pin down ?? And in 7 months of texting you've yet to go on a date ?? Give it up already.
Author DeSantos Posted April 28, 2009 Author Posted April 28, 2009 Well 2 of those months she was travelling and we both live in different cities, so the only time I would really be able to catch is on the weekend, when she works... We met up in london in feb.
bluechocolate Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Ok, I missed the date in February. Whatever, she doesn't return your texts, she doesn't get back to you when she says she will & she continually flakes out. Those are not the actions of someone who is at all interested.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Sounds to me like you're on the back burner. Like she will maybe, possibly, one day be interested if she gets too bored with her life. But why try to be in relationship with somebody that takes so damn much work to get through to? I'd give up on this one. She's "interested" when it's convenient and she has nothing better to do. What an insult.
yeex Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Yeah, her actions are speaking louder than her words. If she really wanted to see you, then she would make time somehow. I say it is time to hold back and see if she reaches out to you. Try to date others in the meantime. I know that is easier said than done sometimes. I am kind of going through something like that. I know it sucks trying to wait to see if somebody comes through but it is better than becoming a nuisance and driving them away.
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