Never ever had a girlfriend in my entire life.

[BoredPerson]

"instead of LOOKING for the right person- BE the right person"

 

Your issues are serious and you are in no emotional shape to be a relationship at this point. Fix your issues first and become a whole, healthy person.

 

I just want to have a girlfriend I have always wanted one but recently I have been feeling a lot more sad. Maybe because I am a long way away from all my friends and family and everything that I know and love.

 

Out of my group of friends that I cherish dearly I am the only one who does not have a girlfriend. The problem is other people keep bringing their issues into my threads.

 

'looks don't matter' Yes they do !

[Bejita463]

I give up. You are either a magnificent troll, or so lacking in common sense and the ability to receive constructive criticism that I don't believe there is any realistic hope that you will take anything out of this thread you could actually use.

 

If it is the former, well played. If it is the latter, you should stop asking questions you don't want to hear the answers to.

[BoredPerson]

I give up. You are either a magnificent troll, or so lacking in common sense and the ability to receive constructive criticism that I don't believe there is any realistic hope that you will take anything out of this thread you could actually use.

 

If it is the former, well played. If it is the latter, you should stop asking questions you don't want to hear the answers to.

 

What constructive critisism has been offered ? Half of the people in the world don't know how stupid they really are. That is the first step - knowing you are a dumbass. Some people never get there in life.. sad.

[Bejita463]

That is the first step - knowing you are a dumbass.

 

This is an ironic statement. You are beyond help.

[BoredPerson]

This is an ironic statement. You are beyond help.

 

What is an 'Arizona' ?

 

Why am I beyond help ? Says the man with the pretty girl in his picture. You don't even understand because you are not ugly like me. Not many people do understand what it is like see the thing is that I don't look bad, I'm just very unattractive in appearance.

 

A lot of my friends that are a long way away were just like you ! saying that blah blah you can get girls, attitude blah, blah and we went out and did all of the sutff and they're were amazed that I just can't get a girl.

 

Until I explained that doing all of that positive attitude stuff is a way of using your attractiveness. Girls not attracted to me in the first place means ntohing will happen.

 

Now I wallow in my own self pitty when I think about pretty girls and how none of them will have anything to do with me in terms of having a relationship. Very sad.

[Bejita463]

What is an 'Arizona' ?

 

48th state of the union, if I remember properly.

 

Why am I beyond help ?

 

Perhaps a poor choice of words, but you'll receive no help from this site. You've already received pertinent advice and critiques and have rejected them. I assume it is because that is not what you wanted to hear.

 

Says the man with the pretty girl in his picture. You don't even understand because you are not ugly like me.

 

This statement is mostly why I bothered to reply again. I see no reason I cannot be civil, and I appreciate the compliment to my girl. For that reason alone, I will offer you a bit of information that might bring you some perspective.

 

I am a good looking man. I'm not going to win any modeling gigs, but I have confidence in my appearance. Despite that, in the past I was unable to maintain a conversation with a female or even gain their interest. I didn't know how to approach them, or how to behave. My looks never earned me any free tickets. I paid my way with my mind and personality, once I learned how.

 

If you were to ask that girl if my looks had anything to do with her being on my arm in that picture and I'd bet her response would be that my appearance is a nice bonus, but is not why she is with me.

[BoredPerson]

48th state of the union, if I remember properly.

 

 

 

Perhaps a poor choice of words, but you'll receive no help from this site. You've already received pertinent advice and critiques and have rejected them. I assume it is because that is not what you wanted to hear.

 

 

 

This statement is mostly why I bothered to reply again. I see no reason I cannot be civil, and I appreciate the compliment to my girl. For that reason alone, I will offer you a bit of information that might bring you some perspective.

 

I am a good looking man. I'm not going to win any modeling gigs, but I have confidence in my appearance. Despite that, in the past I was unable to maintain a conversation with a female or even gain their interest. I didn't know how to approach them, or how to behave. My looks never earned me any free tickets. I paid my way with my mind and personality, once I learned how.

 

If you were to ask that girl if my looks had anything to do with her being on my arm in that picture and I'd bet her response would be that my appearance is a nice bonus, but is not why she is with me.

 

Lord, why are the pretty ones always so....

 

The personality, the talky, talky only helps when the y find you attractive to start with.

 

i,e no personality + looks = no girl

 

personality + no looks = no girl

 

you need both.

 

DER

[Bejita463]

I've caught the interest of plenty of people (both genders, actually) who had never even seen me before. I'll grant you that I have probably done the same with my looks alone, but both of those facts ultimately refute your views.

[JustLooking123]

Bored Person,

 

Get therapy. With an experienced therapist. Maybe, if you really try, in a few years, you will gain the insight to realize your issues, which are deep and severe.

[era]

What is an 'Arizona' ?

 

What kind of asinine question is that?..what's the relevance? ...I don't even live in your country and I know what "an Arizona" is.

 

Again on your part, this is a thinly disguised attack on the poster - insulting him because he lives in Arizona.

 

I see you still haven't posted a pic in your profile, as some of us suggested - it must be really, really bad..*shudders*

[MeaganRaye]

Yeah, you might want to consider therapy if you are having issues with dating and you're almost or already 25. Are you a virgin?

[BoredPerson]

What kind of asinine question is that?..what's the relevance? ...I don't even live in your country and I know what "an Arizona" is.

 

Again on your part, this is a thinly disguised attack on the poster - insulting him because he lives in Arizona.

 

I see you still haven't posted a pic in your profile, as some of us suggested - it must be really, really bad..*shudders*

 

That guy is just liike a girl in a miniskirt and a push up bra telling eeryone how her 36 year old girlfriend loves her for who she is !! and not because she is hot.

 

He doesn't understand that even if he can draw interest the girl won't take it further unless she finds him attractive. They'll show interest in you if you talk good and proper, but they won't go any further. Trust me I've been there an done that before.

 

This guy might think that his girlfriend loves him for his clever wit and deep intelligence but I can assure you that she thinks he has a cute ass instead. Girls are so shallow. One even asked me if she thought the guy she wanted to date was too tall !

[BoredPerson]

Hey I know..........

 

Maybe you should try sleeping with your boss.

 

 

 

YES. It's strange, but after reading your thread I understand why you have not.

 

Well I have a lot of bosses because I am only a junior employee but lets run with it and say that my boss is the boss of the department that I am working and man, would I ever want to sleep with her. She is one sexy, sexy lady.

[You'reasian]

This guy might think that his girlfriend loves him for his clever wit and deep intelligence but I can assure you that she thinks he has a cute ass instead. Girls are so shallow. One even asked me if she thought the guy she wanted to date was too tall !

 

Compartamentalize.

 

Use that deep intelligence and clever wit for your job.

 

Use the buff bod to get chicks.

[Just Angel]

Nothing anyone says makes any difference to you.

Ok, so all the problems in your world is because you're a dog. Gotcha.

 

Save up all your pennies and get extensive plastic surgery and then maybe you'll quitcha-bitchin'.

 

OR! Start trolling centers for the blind and see how far you get.

Personally, I wouldnt date you even if you looked like Brad Pitt simply because your attitude and personality is so condesending and snotty. Huge turn off.

[Just Angel]

Girls are so shallow.

 

GIRLS are? I appreciate a good looking guy but my version of attractive might be very very different than others and that doesnt make me shallow. "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" or so the saying goes.

Many of the guys Ive dated my gf's thought were homely. Some really were, but they had charm, class, self respect and treated me well, thus making them more attractive to y heart AND eyes.

 

You come across as one of the most superficial and shallow people. Yuck.

The movie Shallow Hal comes to mind. Great movie.

[BoredPerson]

Nothing anyone says makes any difference to you.

Ok, so all the problems in your world is because you're a dog. Gotcha.

 

Save up all your pennies and get extensive plastic surgery and then maybe you'll quitcha-bitchin'.

 

OR! Start trolling centers for the blind and see how far you get.

Personally, I wouldnt date you even if you looked like Brad Pitt simply because your attitude and personality is so condesending and snotty. Huge turn off.

 

In real life you wouldn't think like that I am Peter Griffin, everyone likes me, I am a big loveable idiot.

 

There was this one who girl I talked to for a long time (again from work) about stuff and she thought it was a great conversation and even said so. She was very gorgeous and one of my stupid friends (female) went up to her and asked if she liked because we'd been talking for so long.

 

Well she looked at me and looked shocked and weirded out, then when I see her now she either ignores me, or looks at me strangely when before we used to be friends.

 

Evidence enough for you ?

[xpaperxcutx]

Nothing anyone says makes any difference to you.

Ok, so all the problems in your world is because you're a dog. Gotcha.

 

Save up all your pennies and get extensive plastic surgery and then maybe you'll quitcha-bitchin'.

 

OR! Start trolling centers for the blind and see how far you get.

Personally, I wouldnt date you even if you looked like Brad Pitt simply because your attitude and personality is so condesending and snotty. Huge turn off.

 

Just_Angel, that's the only way to summarize the last 5 pages.

 

B_P, stop writing for a second and really read the advices from the other posters. You keep saying you're ugly and whatnot, and I feel like you've already convinced me.

 

 

No, not every girl is shallow, just like not every guy is a jerk. You just don't give yourself a chance to actually pursue anything with someone wonderful. You really need to change your attitude fast and soon or else you'll still be alone when you're 30.

[BobSacamento]

Frankly, I think most people on here are really just splitting hairs. Moaning about any little poor comment you make. The majority of your first comment I think was sincere and you do seem to want help. Sure I think your wrong demonizing women because that's childish doesn't mean you are hopeless.

 

Here's my advice:

 

First, If you are 25 and you haven't had a GF that is not a problem. Honestly, I think that's personal information and as a man you should not divulge it. Women who need to know this information are weak and should be passed on.

 

Second, your goal should not be - get a GF. Your goal should be to meet women. As many women as possible, go on as many dates as possible. You want to take it one step at a time. Honestly, my main goal when dating is to keep as far from the exclusive department as possible as long as possible. Sometimes you need to make compromises though

 

Moral of this long story, get a new strategy, DATE!

[SpanksTheMonkey]

I've caught the interest of plenty of people (both genders, actually) who had never even seen me before. I'll grant you that I have probably done the same with my looks alone, but both of those facts ultimately refute your views.

Bejita don't bother most don't anymore he said it himself he wants to wallow in self pity let it be I say.

 

The more you try to help this person the more he will insult and point the finger at everything else good on ya for trying nice pic by the way shes very pretty I love her hair color..

[BoredPerson]

GIRLS are? I appreciate a good looking guy but my version of attractive might be very very different than others and that doesnt make me shallow. "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" or so the saying goes.

Many of the guys Ive dated my gf's thought were homely. Some really were, but they had charm, class, self respect and treated me well, thus making them more attractive to y heart AND eyes.

 

You come across as one of the most superficial and shallow people. Yuck.

The movie Shallow Hal comes to mind. Great movie.

 

Yeah right girls are liars and everyone knows that they lie all the time about everything. Glad we sorted that out !

 

You say your boyfriends are so great and are wonderful people but I can guarantee they're good looking too.

 

Like when I see a hot chick I start to think of all these other wonderful qualities of hers thinking it is her wonderful personality that makes her attractive. That is not the case, it is her awesome sexy body that makes her attractive that makes me think good things about the rest of her.

 

Same with you. Ever wondered why people in people person jobs are usually good looking ? Why restaurants and bars only hire good looking people ? Why ugly people earn less money ? The answer is right infront of your face only you won't accept it and through your own vanity put down good honest meaning people like myself.

 

You think you are a white little angle that is so pure in her intentions and above normal human emotions ? Well you are not. And being attracted to someone because of their looks is something that no one can escape. Women are no exceptions.

 

So stop putting down and degrading people like me so you can feel wonderful about yourself dating the best looking guy while stroking your own vanity by saying that you are above everyone else because you only want him for reasons that you don't percieve as shallow. All so you can feel good about yourself, certainly, very shallow.

 

Like the girl I sat next to today, very hot, and her boyfriend, a little puncy pretty boy with piercings and a lisp. Back in the day we should be able to beat up people like that, but stupid laws and anti violence society.

[Bejita463]

That guy is just liike a girl in a miniskirt and a push up bra telling eeryone how her 36 year old girlfriend loves her for who she is !! and not because she is hot.

 

He doesn't understand that even if he can draw interest the girl won't take it further unless she finds him attractive. They'll show interest in you if you talk good and proper, but they won't go any further. Trust me I've been there an done that before.

 

This guy might think that his girlfriend loves him for his clever wit and deep intelligence but I can assure you that she thinks he has a cute ass instead. Girls are so shallow. One even asked me if she thought the guy she wanted to date was too tall !

 

Like I said before. You are either a fantastic troll, or mind bogglingly dense. It is hard to tell which.

 

Bejita don't bother most don't anymore he said it himself he wants to wallow in self pity let it be I say.

 

The more you try to help this person the more he will insult and point the finger at everything else good on ya for trying

 

You can't fix stupid. There's not a pill you can take; there's not a class you can go to. Stupid is forever.

-Ron White.

 

nice pic by the way shes very pretty I love her hair color..

 

Thanks. She is awesome. I consider myself a lucky man.

[sotired]

If all women are shallow liars why do you want to be in a relationship with one so badly??

 

You say that we are basically just walking tits and vaginas.....You can always pay a hooker. That's probably the only way you'll ever get laid with your attitude.

[BoredPerson]

I went out to a bar with some work 'friends' and I started to talking to one of their friends who was a college student and she was very attractive. I asked her out and she said no, surprise, surprise. We talked for a long time and we talked about things that were of interest to her. She told me all about what she studied and I knew a lot about those topics because it was mostly history which I know everything about already.

 

Yeah, she still rejected me, so much for your being positive and showing your good side or whatever other rubbish you people came up with.

 

Then I went around the bar and tried talkinig to some of the girls there. They were tall and had black hair so I tried to start a conversation and always got rejected or the girls showed no interst.

 

Why ?

 

Because I am an ugly person. I was supposed to go to some stupid birthday party tonight at some stupid bar but I don't think I'll go because it will only make me feel bad that all the women are too good for me.

The ones that aren't are usually fat, ugly and are idiots.

[JustLooking123]

The ones that aren't are usually fat, ugly and are idiots.

 

You have described yourself as fat and ugly. Maybe these are the girls who are in your league. Why do you deserve a happy, good looking, kind woman if you can offer none of those things to her?