Love_Listener Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 So heres my question. My parents bought a place and we needed someone else to fill a room until the standard rental period started. So I let the first person that called me (a girl) move in for the next few months. Initially I didn't like this girl really at all but she has since grown on me and we click really well. I've tried to keep things a bit on the sexual side in a sense (i'm trying to avoid the "friends zone" just in case I do pursue her). She does have a **** buddy who she really likes but he doesn't usually come around but for a 10 minute stint - I imagine he has zero actual interest in her. Make no mistake though, the girl is a genuinely good person. On one hand I think this is an evil thing to do considering that if they women does not like me, I've essentially trapped her in my house, which would make me an uber weirdo. But I have been single for a long time so I don't want to let something good potentially pass me by. So would this be a disastrous thing to do? I'm positive she likes me a least a little bit.
Juristhea Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 If you can feel that you can take her out of the FB that she's seeing with and you see yourself that you're more perfect for her than the other guy, then by all means pursue her. But what's holding you back?
Author Love_Listener Posted April 28, 2009 Author Posted April 28, 2009 She lives with me, so if things go sour we can't just split up...
Juristhea Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 She lives with me, so if things go sour we can't just split up... Well, if you really want to pursue a relationship with her, then by all means go for it. things happen for a reason.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 I think "just friends" is better in this scenario, but that's JMO.
Mycroft Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 If you do decide to go for it I would avoid a confession type thing. Don't make it a big deal.
monkey00 Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Worst case scenario is you'll have to evict her or she has to move out if things do go sour. In any case when the lease is up, you both can part ways.
carhill Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 A woman who can successfully manage FWB long-term is likely not GF material during that time in her life, IMO. Probably better to retain the status quo. After all, if you start pursuing her and you still hear the FWB headboard banging the wall, how would you feel?
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