mlh5046 Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Girl and I ,who I have been friends with 9 years, are having pretty severe communication issues. She has a boyfriend and after I broke up with my gf of 2 years she started talking to me non stop. She ultimately admitted to being in love with me and how she always thought we were meant to be together. I know its wrong for her to do this when she is not single and that is the issue. Which is why I am having trouble understanding her, its driving me insane haha. Like, this has been going on for 4 months. I then started to ignore her because I want her to be single if this was going to proceed and I thought she would get the message. But she just became upset. I told her over the phone the other night I thought she was acting selfish. And as usual when she hears something non positive and when I am not my usual fun self she gets scared and makes an excuse to hang up. She will never bring up the subject of her having a bf and it is like he doesn't exist. Whenever I bring it up she gets mad. How do I communicate with her without her being so stand offish? Better off just ignoring for a while? or Just straight forward "Lets either be just friends or if you want something more let me know when you are single?" I would have done this a while ago, but it is long distance until the summer. I thought she would have done it by now but I don't have any idea what her deal is. I mean I feel both of the options I proposed will get negative reactions from her, so if anyone has a better idea please!!! ha PS I gave her every reason to know I would be interested if she was single, I think at least. I just didn't get on my knees and say I love you though.
Juristhea Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Just tell her honestly that she can't keep on doing this, especially to her boyfriend. And if she really wants to be with you, then she has to do the honorable thing and not fool around (pardon the term but I couldnt think of anything else to say) with you...
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