xpaperxcutx Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 lose all respect for a woman who gives herself up to help you with your sexual gratification? Why would you not want to date them afterward even though you might ( just maybe) like them? Would sex be any different from a bj? I just want to know to know what goes on in those little head of yours. Blast away.
Juristhea Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Maybe because it's a built in instinct wherein once they are sexually gratified, they won't feel the need to do the same deed again with the same person unless they're committed or married or engaged?
TheBigQuestion Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Maybe because it's a built in instinct wherein once they are sexually gratified, they won't feel the need to do the same deed again with the same person unless they're committed or married or engaged? Close thread, we have a winner.
Lucky_One Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Maybe sexual gratification from someone who "gives themselves up to help them" isn't all that great, post-orgasm? Maybe a man might want to be emotionally connected with a woman so that sexual gratification isn't about self-gratification but about gratifying the other because of caring and desire, which leads to extremely HOT love-making? And maybe a man doesn't like a woman that he feels would sexually gratify just any old little head?
Enema Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 lose all respect for a woman who gives herself up to help you with your sexual gratification? Why would you not want to date them afterward even though you might ( just maybe) like them? Dunno about the other guys. But, I don't want pity sex. If I got some action from the lady and felt that she was just doing it to "help me" with "my" sexual gratification, I wouldn't want her again. I'd move onto someone who actually enjoyed sex with me and desired it.
Juristhea Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Ok, for starters, how do guys know it's just PITY SEX?
MissConduct Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Ok, for starters, how do guys know it's just PITY SEX? well if she expresses it like that: who gives herself up to help you with your sexual gratification? it sounds like pitty sex, not like something that flowed naturally in a progression of an evolving relationship. Sex isn't about helping another human being with "their gratification", it is about feeling the moment and what feels natural to you. If you have to question it, it was too soon... is my own philosophy when it comes to sex.
Juristhea Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 So basically if a girl would go on her way to help a guy with his sexual needs, then it makes her a slut?
alphamale Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 lose all respect for a woman who gives herself up to help you with your sexual gratification? Why would you not want to date them afterward even though you might ( just maybe) like them? i don't know man, i tend to stick around when the sex is good...
MissConduct Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 So basically if a girl would go on her way to help a guy with his sexual needs, then it makes her a slut? It's stupid. What is she the happy hooker that she has to "help a poor brother out?" I don't know any self respecting guy that would want to be with a woman he is totally interested in and know that she did it just to "help him out". I think most guys would want to know she did it because she wanted to share the pleasure, not "help HIM out" Makes him sound like a charity case.
alphamale Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 I don't know any self respecting guy that would want to be with a woman he is totally interested in and know that she did it just to "help him out". I think most guys would want to know she did it because she wanted to share the pleasure, not "help HIM out" Makes him sound like a charity case. trust me on this one, we don't give a **** what her motivations are
Author xpaperxcutx Posted April 28, 2009 Author Posted April 28, 2009 It's stupid. What is she the happy hooker that she has to "help a poor brother out?" I don't know any self respecting guy that would want to be with a woman he is totally interested in and know that she did it just to "help him out". I think most guys would want to know she did it because she wanted to share the pleasure, not "help HIM out" Makes him sound like a charity case. Well what if she did because she liked the guy? Honestly I believe its such a broad spectrum that you can't really call it " PITY sex". I would not say that if I helped relieved a guy, I tell him straight in the face its a charity case. Because I probably wasn't even thinking of it as such.
Trialbyfire Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Anticipation builds sexual tension. If he needs help, he knows how to relieve his own pressure.
MissConduct Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 @alpha Apparently some guys do but I trust that you don't care, and that's cool: Dunno about the other guys. But, I don't want pity sex. If I got some action from the lady and felt that she was just doing it to "help me" with "my" sexual gratification, I wouldn't want her again. I'd move onto someone who actually enjoyed sex with me and desired it.
MN randomguy Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 i don't know man, i tend to stick around when the sex is good... Pitty sex and good sex are mutually exclusive. How emasculating would it be to have some woman be so nice to give it to you when you are unworthy, too incompetent and un-respectable to get normal sex. I don't think I could even get an erection if I were in this situation.
Juristhea Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Things are heating up a little... Anyways, on a guy's part, I guess they really wouldnt care about the sex, just as long as its done, right alpha? for us girls, it makes us sluts or whores when we're the ones who dont care about the sex or why we are even motivated to do it with a guy in the first place... I guess all in all, it's about different views.
MissConduct Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Well what if she did because she liked the guy? Honestly I believe its such a broad spectrum that you can't really call it " PITY sex". I would not say that if I helped relieved a guy, I tell him straight in the face its a charity case. Because I probably wasn't even thinking of it as such. No that's understood that you wouldn't say so. Maybe it's the way in which you worded it, when you say "help to gratify him sexually" it implies you are not cool with what you are doing, you are doing it just to appease him. So when you put it like that it implies you are not fully comfortable with what you are doing.
alphamale Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 @alpha Apparently some guys do but I trust that you don't care, and that's cool: sex is sex
Juristhea Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 sex is sex And alphamale just summed up just about everything...
Love_Listener Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 My roommate (girl) did this. Now I love her to death but she I think she honestly believes this guy thats she's just f*cking might actually like her. Its a respect issue hun. Guys are rational creatures and figure that if your that willing to give sex up (which is still a somewhat sacred act for some people) at seemingly the drop of a hat, your not worth their time. If a guy really likes you he wants you to make him work for it just a little bit. It proves that your more of a prize, not just a f*ck buddy.
Juristhea Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 My roommate (girl) did this. Now I love her to death but she I think she honestly believes this guy thats she's just f*cking might actually like her. Its a respect issue hun. Guys are rational creatures and figure that if your that willing to give sex up (which is still a somewhat sacred act for some people) at seemingly the drop of a hat, your not worth their time. If a guy really likes you he wants you to make him work for it just a little bit. It proves that your more of a prize, not just a f*ck buddy. Well said! guys, even though they have this inate ability to hump anything with a skirt on, do want a little effort when it comes to getting a girl in bed...
MN randomguy Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Try to think of the sex and the decision to stay in a relationship as independent in the guy's mind.
Mahatma Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 sex is sex Not quite. Sex with someone you actually care about is much different than sex with someone who is just there to satisfy you.
dreamergrl Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 I'd be disturbed if a guy expressed he wanted to 'help me out' sexually. I'll find my own help thank you very much!
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