RJG86 Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 About me first: I am called "sweet" way too many times by older woman. My ex annoyed me because she said other girls stared at me too much and she complained a lot about it. I am horrible at reading woman as to whether they genuinely like me. I attract the flirts. I dont hunt, but like being hunted - until in the relationship. At the same time though being hunted can be quite annoying, here is why. Story: So I dated this woman, a year ago, who I think is perfect in her interests and grace. We dated a little more than a month and she eventually said she is not interested and just wants to be friends. Me being into her just ignored her and she never cared to get in touch with me. So I moved on. A year later goes by and I am starting to surf. Her being a hardcore surfer chic I find her on facebook and add her, dont even say hi to her. She adds me and messages me "Hi! how are you!?". After about a week of messaging. she invites me to see slumdog millionaire and goes with me to the book store. I keep it mellow and buddy. Odd thing is that she is more talkative than when me and her were dating and stares much more. There-after she messages me on facebook quite a bit, she tells me everything about her, I keep myself reserved on the details somewhat of myself - we are buddys!? I decide to invite her to watch a movie of my preferance. When we meet up to watch the movie 3 weeks would have passed since seeing Slumdog Millionaire. Though, 4 days before she is suppose to come to my place, she contacts me asking me to go with her to her friends birthday party. We will be going in a limo with them to a club in hollywood. I havent been to a club in a while and thought sure. Turns out everyone invited has someone with them. The whole time in the limo back and forth we are quite flirtatious, the basics of bumping and staring and small jokes. At the club we dance and it was great, she was pretty assertive and comfortable grinding with me every which way, we slowed dance at the final song. While there we were also splashing cold water and tossing ice cubes at each other at our reserved table. She made her best effort to stay next to me and really never left my side. We leave the club and in the limo even more aggresive flirting which she always starts, she pinches me hard alot and I in return. We get home and in her friends car we rub hard shoulder to shoulder for warmth, kind of jokingly(her idea). It's almost 5am and I am taking her home, her mom called her an hour ago. She doesnt really get why her mom is mad but figures it is because she went out with a guy instead of a girl. So overall I can tell she really hardly ever goes with guys to the club but she obviously knows how to dance, so she is no stranger to dancing with guys. When she got home her mom gave her an earfull(I was told via text). Now my problem is she said she will text me if she can go to my place the next(that day)day to watch the movie. Also she said she first has to go to a museum for a school report, I ask if I can come along and she said she wants to go alone and gives me a story of a time she went with a girlfriend who kept taking her focus away. So that day I stay home studying for school and she never texts me at all. I got depressed off of it. See, I do dance with women at clubs but not that intimately(sincere), my mind isn't as respectful with intentions with other women as it was with her that night. So it brought back alot of emotions, and she takes them down without even a complimentary "I can't go" text, leaving me blowing off my friends and doing nothing that day but being with my bothersome thoughts. So we are still buddys though, she is mainly a direct person if she does not want something(our dating past for exp). So if she doesn't want to talk no more she will let me know. So I guess my question is what should I pick up on all of this? fyi: if it matters, her mom knows me, I was in their house and talked to her mom quite a bit. I am 23(21 Jan) Aquarius and she is a 22(21 Dec) year old Saggitarius for you Horo buffs. She thought it was really cool our B-days were on the same day. Oh and I hang out with a lot of girls and the ones that flirt a lot I blow off, I don't want to blow her off though because yes I do like her and I value the "will have to do" friendship. I am dating someone else though right now casually.
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