letinmotion Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Okay so my ex girlfriend and I have A LOT of history and we've both damaged each other beyond belief but somehow we keep going back to each other. Our relationship is toxic beyond belief but when we are together it feels perfect but when we are at our worst its HORRID! We officially broke things off a few weeks ago. I really do love the girl but I need space and time to get back on my feet and to get over some of the issues of the relationship. I never told her that I wanted to get back with her in the future.. However.. She contacts my friends and tells them that she never loved me as much as people thought. She also wanted to have my friend tell me that she never wanted anything to do with me ever again and that to spare me the embarrassment of getting shut down.. to not talk to her again. Im sorry but when I've had girlfriends in the past and they've been done... I dont hear from them... they dont talk to my friends and they want nothing to do with the situation at all. However, my ex keeps talking to people about how shes "so over it" and i've been told she continues to posts "status updates" via myspace that are directed specifically toward me. Im not beat up about this at all because Im not letting her bring me down and i've been doing really well. I want a few female opinions on what you think she is trying to do. Im confident that she is trying her hardest to hurt me because she knows that Im doing fine and am not beat up about the relationship at all. I've told her and encouraged her to see what else is out there and that we may pick up someday. I just wish she would leave it alone and leave my friends out of it. Advice... Opinions??? Please give me some sort of insight. Im lost. And the truth be told... I would definitely pickup on another day if I havent found the person im looking for or If I really find out that I want to be with my ex.
loser101 Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 I think this is what people refer to as 'co-dependency' in a relationship. you have a very unhealthy pattern where you are both seeking control and attention and you are completely addicted to drama. it doesn't matter why she is doing what she is doing. the two of you will never have a healthy relationship and you are rather immature if you believe this is how you should be with someone. you would do both of you great service if you cut her out of your life and found a woman you can have a balanced and healthy relationship with.
Juristhea Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 I concur. The pattern that you keep on gettin back with your ex even after you've both been hurt so much just indicates that you guys are co dependent. It's unhealthy... Move on and find a new girl. Go incommunicado if possible.
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