Thoughts?

[cadman]

I met a woman who works in another department and after getting to know her a bit we had lunch 3 times together...than i asked her to have dinner with me and she told me that she wanted nothing more than friendship...I have no problems being her friend cuse she is a good person and alot of fun to be around...however since she told me her intentions i backed off drastically and basically see her when i see her....this was 3 weeks ago and since then she stops by my office or emails me just to see how my weekend went or things like that a few times a week...I was always the one initiating the conversations ect. and now it seems to be reversed...Any opinions on what is going on here?

[TaraMaiden]

Yes.

you have backed off, which I think was good, and she is maintaining the friendship, which is also good.

 

I think if I were she, i would feel flattered that you had respected her wishes to not take this relationship any further, and now she is just acting like a good friend, as is right to do.

 

_/l\_

[Bluebird In My Heart]

What may be going on?

 

Just off the top of my head - I'd say she is realizes that you have backed off drastically, and wants to make sure there's no hard feelings.

 

Btw, the fact that she was upfront about wanting only friendship was pretty cool on her part. The fact that you backed off a lot, and don't really have hard feelings about it shows you respect her, also.

 

 

I was always the one initiating the conversations ect. and now it seems to be reversed..

 

Keep it that way. She's made it clear what she is looking for.

 

If she will ever change her mind, she needs to be the one initiating now, in my opinion.

 

Well played, my friend.

[AlektraClementine]

Yep. She's showing you that she actually does want a friendship with you by engaging with you and proving to you by that also that you didn't scare her off.

 

After a while, I think it would be safe to initiate some contact as that is completely natural for friends.